How to Be a Masculine Man in a Relationship?

Part of my Kundalini and Relationships guide · Teachings by Guru Sanju

Understanding Masculine Energy in Relationships

Who is a masculine man? A masculine man is not just a husband, boyfriend, or male partner in the conventional sense. A masculine man is one who embodies masculine energy — a natural leadership force, the strength of clarity, direction, decision-making, and unwavering presence. Whether you’re in a relationship with a wife, a girlfriend, or a female partner, the foundational principle is this:

You must lead the relationship.

To lead the relationship means that the decision-making power remains with you — from the moment the relationship begins, all the way until the end, whether that end is separation or the final moment of your life.

I do not promote marriage as the ultimate goal, but I invite you to reflect on the dynamics between the masculine man and the feminine woman — regardless of your formal relationship status. If you’re in a relationship, this teaching applies.

Masculinity Is Leadership — Instinctual and Divine

A masculine man is like a lion — the one who leads the jungle. Even though we no longer live in jungles, the instinctual masculine animal qualities are still deeply embedded in you. And along with them, the divine masculine qualities of Shiva, the pure Consciousness, reside within.

If you’re not living like Shiva — a powerful, steady, present being — then whose life are you living? Are you living like a donkey, passively led by women? This message is for men, and it is meant to awaken you. If you are a woman and feel hurt by these truths, I suggest you step away, because this discourse will be direct, raw, and practical.

Choose a Feminine Woman — Not a Masculine One

Stop being a wounded masculine or feminine man in your relationship. If you claim masculinity, then your partner must be a feminine woman. Never commit to a woman who holds masculine energy. Whether in romantic relationships, your professional life, or society in general — with mothers, sisters, in-laws, neighbors, or female colleagues — do not allow domination by women.

Why? Because when you surrender to a woman who carries wounded masculine energy, she begins to destroy the masculinity in you, piece by piece.

The Subtle Danger of Wounded Masculine Women

A wounded masculine woman is far more dangerous to your masculinity than a wounded masculine man. It’s like a hidden leak in a ship — unnoticed until the ship sinks. Many “nice guys” I speak with are unaware of what is happening under their noses. In the name of trust, they allow their female partners to manipulate, deceive, and even share personal and professional details with outsiders.

Therefore, never allow your woman to make decisions for you. And never share secrets she is not supposed to know.

The Energetic Nature of Most Women

Women, in general, are like cartoons — emotionally underdeveloped beyond the age of sixteen. They function like robots, copying their mothers, sisters, and the society around them, repeating the same patterns in relationships. They are not evolutionary beings in the way masculine consciousness is.

In the last 100 years, the one skill they’ve most deeply developed is competition with men. They compete, compare, and become jealous — especially in intimate relationships. This is unnatural and destructive.

If your partner competes with you, compares herself to you, or displays narcissistic behavior, the relationship is energetically doomed. There is no polarity. Masculinity and femininity are two opposite poles — they must complement, not clash.

A Masculine Man Is Meant to Lead, Not Share Everything

Your genitals are different. Your brain wiring is different. You are designed to lead, to be extroverted, to take risks, to protect. She is designed to receive, nurture, and surrender.

Your job is to make decisions, to protect, and to lead — if she is a truly feminine woman. Not to become her diary.

Do not share your professional and financial details. She only needs to know what supports her emotional and physical well-being. You should manage the rest. Maintain this energetic boundary.

Strengthen Your Individual Masculinity

Stay fit. Stay healthy. Do not become emotionally or physically dependent on your female partner. Cultivate your individuality.

If you are single, I strongly recommend living in the IGG Freedom Model. This model supports you in building a life rooted in freedom, clarity, self-leadership, and power — without the energetic traps of misaligned relationships.

Final Words: Master Masculinity Before Relationship

If you are a single man, do not rush into relationships. First, understand the secrets of masculine energy. Learn how to lead yourself before you lead a woman. Learn how to detect wounded masculine energy in females. Learn how to hold your power.

This topic runs deep. I will continue to share more teachings in future discourses on masculinity, relationship polarity, and energetic dynamics. If you have specific questions about your relationship — whether you’re dealing with a truly feminine woman or a woman carrying masculine wounding — you are welcome to reach out for personal coaching.

Let’s restore the masculine spirit.
Let’s awaken Shiva within.

Thank you.

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