The Secret Benefits of Not Getting Married During Kundalini Awakening

Part of my Kundalini and Relationships guide · Teachings by Guru Sanju

Today’s topic is one that touches a delicate but crucial area in the life of a spiritual aspirant—Kundalini Awakening and the question of marriage. Why should you not get married during Kundalini Awakening? What is the deeper energetic and evolutionary connection between these two? Why do I feel compelled to speak on this today despite knowing that marriage has become the cornerstone of modern society?

This teaching is especially for my students around the world—those who are in the midst of Kundalini Awakening and are suffering or confused at various stages of the process. If you are standing at the crossroads—debating whether to marry, or trapped in a painful marriage—this discourse is for you. It will bring clarity, insight, and perhaps the permission your soul is seeking to choose its higher path.

The First Dimension: Why Do You Want to Get Married?

Let’s begin with the most direct question: Why do you want to marry?

Don’t answer superficially. Sit quietly. Ask yourself deeply—from your innermost consciousness—where did this question arise from?

You will discover it is not your soul that desires marriage. This desire comes from the collective mind. From societal conditioning. From layers of unconscious programming that convince you that to be a complete human, to be respected, to live a ‘normal’ life—you must marry.

But marriage is not a natural function of awakened life. It is a construct of the mind. By the mind, for the mind, and of the mind. Created by the matrix. For the matrix.

Why? Because of the energetic benefits society receives when you conform. Because of the structure it enforces on you—rules, responsibilities, energetic contracts that benefit the external system, not your soul’s evolution.

The Energetic Truth: Marriage Blocks Your Awakening

From an energetic standpoint, you are marrying a stranger. No matter how long the courtship or how romantic the story, you are still energetically marrying someone you do not know on the deepest soul level.

And the more evolved you are, the greater this energetic clash will be.

I’ve seen countless cases. A man in the heart chakra, radiating love and high values, marries a woman still rooted in the lower chakras—driven by hatred, greed, and unconscious patterns inherited from her family system.

The result? Clash. Conflict. Constant energetic disturbance.

You cannot fulfill your life purpose if you get married to someone who operates at a lower frequency. You may be working from abundance, but your spouse from lack. You may radiate compassion, while she vibrates with control, blame, or narcissism.

Marriage to such a partner will obstruct your awakening at every step. Your personal growth, your emotional well-being, your financial clarity—everything will be compromised. You will live in conflict, not consciousness.

Why Love Does Not Require Marriage

If there is true love between two people, then what is the need for marriage? Love itself is the commitment.

In the modern world, where two conscious beings can live independently and support each other’s soul journey, there is no need to bind oneself in the societal contract of marriage.

Kundalini Awakening itself uproots you from the matrix. She pulls you away from all societal constructs so you can see life from a higher, divine lens. Marriage, when imposed or unconscious, becomes an anchor that drags you back into the matrix.

The Subtle Truth of Shared Energetic Space

This is not just emotional or financial. It is energetic.

When you marry, you share your personal space—your home, your room, your bed. And when your energy is going through intense re-calibration during Kundalini Awakening, your bedroom becomes your energetic lab. You are receiving shocks, insights, transmissions. Your body, your chakras, your sleep cycle—everything is adjusting.

Sleeping next to someone who does not understand your journey? That interferes with everything.

Your partner may question your process. Their energies may dampen your rising frequency. They may unknowingly block the healing work your soul is trying to do.

If you are single and already going through Kundalini Awakening, your situation will become worse if you marry without deep, divine clarity.

If you are unsure whether marriage is part of your destiny, I invite you to contact me for diagnosis. If karmic completion requires marriage, that will become clear. But if this urge is born only out of conditioning, you are walking towards a fire with open eyes.

Marriage Means Marriage to the Matrix

When you marry, you do not marry a person—you marry their family, their culture, their drama, their karma. In-laws, siblings, relatives, society. You marry their entire energetic field. You take responsibility for their dreams, their unprocessed pain, their unfulfilled desires.

You become responsible for building a big house because your in-laws desire it. You spend your time, money, and energy to create something you do not even want.

Is this growth? Is this evolution?

No. It is stupidity disguised as responsibility.

Your life is meant for self-realization, not self-sacrifice. When you invest in matter—a spouse, a house, a child—you trade your soul’s potential for temporary approval.

Most women expect a man to become the donkey for their dreams. And once the child comes, your burden doubles. The child is a different soul, with its own karmas and plans, and now you’re responsible for that too?

Look at yourself. Are you fit? Are you emotionally healthy? Most men are not. They are exhausted. They eat junk. They drink to escape. They suppress emotions and die of heart attacks or commit suicide.

Why? Because their truth is buried under responsibilities that were never theirs.

Semen, Ojas, and Unconscious Procreation

From a spiritual perspective, marriage often leads to unconscious sexual activity. Which leads to unconscious conception. Which leads to unconscious parenting.

You release your semen, your life force, your ojas, simply because society demands a child.

But Kundalini demands your ojas. Your journey requires that retention. Your energy is needed for soul evolution, not for biological reproduction.

Refer to my other teachings to understand why ojas is the most precious resource for an awakened man.

When you live inside the matrix, your energy is drained daily. Every desire of your wife and children becomes your karmic responsibility. You are constantly running, constantly failing.

There is no space for your dreams.

And after 40? You are diseased, depleted, spiritually bankrupt.

Real Happiness Is Not Dependent on Marriage

Why do people marry? For happiness.

But happiness is within. When you depend on another person for joy, you are setting yourself up for misery. Happiness must never be outsourced.

If you are a man, choose a partner who is deeply content, low in desire, and devoted to your path. Such women are rare. Very rare.

And if you are a woman in the midst of your Kundalini Awakening, do not become the mother of a man’s dream to have a child. Your womb is sacred. Not for unconscious karma cycles.

When Kundalini Evolves, It Throws Everything Away

Whether you are married or single, Kundalini will throw everything away when she begins evolving through the heart chakra. You will go through immense suffering—emotional exhaustion, energetic disturbances, mental illnesses, even physical diseases like IBS, arthritis, multiple sclerosis, bipolar disorder, and more.

She does not tolerate toxicity. She demands purity.

So do not cling to your marriage if it is not serving your soul. If you’re in pain, separate. Divorce. Reclaim your energy.

Many of my students have walked out of marriages once they realized their path. They took action once they received the signal from their inner GPS—I cannot continue in this toxic relationship and still grow.

Take time to introspect. Go deep. If you are confused, I offer diagnosis sessions to assess your chakras, karmas, and soul path. And if eligible, you may receive Shaktipat—an energetic transmission that can bring extraordinary clarity, healing, and power.

This Shaktipat is not ordinary. It is not of this world. It is from Shiva himself. It integrates your energy. Thousands have benefited already.

Closing: Do Not Walk Blindly Toward the Cliff

If you know a cliff lies ahead, will you still walk toward it?

Marriage, for many, is that cliff.

Before anyone seduces or pressures you into marriage, pause. Think. Breathe.

Do not get married to fulfill someone else’s dreams. Live your life purpose. Invest your time, energy, and money into your evolution.

And if you do not know your life purpose, come—let me show you. Let me guide you.

Your life is yours. Your path is sacred.

Do not trade it for an illusion.

Stay blessed.

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