Background
Guru Sanju teaches that transformation cannot remain confined to thought because the body itself carries patterns of tension, inhibition, inactivity, and emotional suppression. She approaches healing through embodied practices that bring attention back to breathing, movement, pelvic mobility, nourishment, stamina, and ordinary daily functioning. Her intention is to help a person move from chronic contraction toward a greater experience of vitality and participation in life.
In this discourse, she explores conscious exhalation as a relaxation practice, the importance of observing rather than forcing the breath, and the relationship between emotional tension and bodily holding. She also addresses sexual energy as one possible dimension of life force and teaches pelvic movement as a way of exploring stored muscular tension and suppressed sexuality without shame. Alongside this energetic work, she emphasizes food preparation, physical activity, and increasing everyday stamina. Her larger message is that life force must become embodied through breathing, movement, expression, nourishment, and conscious living.
Your First Work Is to Return to the Body
If you have lived for a long time inside fear, emotional disturbance, excessive thinking, or physical inactivity, you cannot transform yourself only by thinking differently. Your body has participated in your entire history. The way you breathe, move, contract, sit, eat, sleep, and respond to other people becomes part of the pattern.
This is why I repeatedly bring you back to the body. I want you to experience yourself physically instead of continuously interpreting yourself mentally.
Your transformation becomes real when a new state begins appearing in ordinary life.
Use Conscious Exhalation to Interrupt Holding
One of the simplest practices I teach is conscious mouth exhalation. Allow the breath to leave gently through the mouth, then close the mouth and allow the next inhalation to arise naturally through the nose. Do not deliberately pull in a huge breath afterward.
The purpose is to become aware of unnecessary breath holding and muscular contraction. The exhalation should be relaxed rather than forceful.
After several repetitions, return to completely natural breathing and notice whether anything has changed.
Do Not Force Mouth Exhalation All Day
A breathing technique should remain a conscious practice, not an instruction to override your natural respiratory system continuously from morning until night. Normal nasal breathing has important physiological functions, and your body already regulates breathing automatically.
Use mouth exhalation periodically when it helps you release tension, slow down, or become aware that you are holding the breath. Then allow normal breathing to resume.
The goal is to restore flexibility, not replace one rigid breathing pattern with another.
Let Inhalation Happen Naturally
After a comfortable exhalation, there is no need to aggressively inhale. Your respiratory system automatically responds to changing oxygen and carbon dioxide levels and generates the next breath.
Observe this intelligence. Exhale gently, pause without strain if a natural pause appears, and let the inhalation come by itself.
You are learning that you do not need to control every stage of breathing.
Breathing Is Not About Flushing Toxins From the Body
I want you to understand the physical process correctly. Exhalation primarily removes carbon dioxide produced by metabolism; it does not empty mysterious toxins from every tissue or create a vacuum that pulls extra oxygen molecules into the body.
Your lungs, bloodstream, kidneys, liver, digestive system, and other organs have their own physiological functions. Breathing participates in this larger system, but it should not be turned into an exaggerated detoxification theory.
Use the practice for what you can actually experience: relaxation, awareness, rhythm, and release of unnecessary holding.
More Oxygen Is Not Always Better
Do not deliberately breathe faster and deeper because you imagine that more oxygen must create more energy. Excessive breathing can lower carbon dioxide too much and produce dizziness, tingling, light-headedness, chest discomfort, or anxiety.
Your body normally regulates oxygen very efficiently. Therefore, comfortable breathing is more important than maximum breathing.
Never turn breathwork into a competition.
Your Exhalation Can Become a Psychological Release
There is another dimension to this practice. When somebody is speaking and you notice yourself becoming tense, you can use a gentle exhalation as a reminder not to absorb every word psychologically.
You do not need to fight the person. You do not need to argue internally. Exhale, remain present, and decide what actually deserves your attention.
In this sense, exhalation becomes symbolic as well as physical: I hear you, but I do not have to carry everything you give me.
Stop Giving Everything Equal Importance
A tremendous amount of life force disappears because you treat every comment, opinion, criticism, memory, and social interaction as important. Somebody says something and your mind carries it for hours.
Learn to discriminate. Some information requires action. Some requires reflection. Some deserves to pass through without becoming part of you.
Your attention is energy. Spend it consciously.
Observe Your Body Instead of Expecting Miracles
When you practice conscious exhalation for several days, observe ordinary indicators. How are you sleeping? How is your appetite? How is your digestion? Do you feel more or less fatigued?
Notice your mood, muscular tension, concentration, and general ability to participate in daily life. Write down what genuinely changes.
Do not manufacture improvement because somebody told you that improvement should happen.
Breathing Can Support Regulation but Cannot Cure Everything
Breathwork may be useful for relaxation and self-regulation, but it is not a cure for schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, neurological illness, or other serious medical and psychiatric conditions. Those conditions require appropriate professional assessment and treatment.
Never stop medication or abandon psychiatric or medical care because a breathing practice makes you feel temporarily better. Spiritual work can accompany responsible healthcare.
A more regulated body should make you more capable of dealing with reality, not less willing to receive appropriate help.
Your Diagnosis Is Not Your Entire Identity
At the same time, if somebody has given you a psychiatric diagnosis, do not reduce your entire existence to that label. You remain a human being with intelligence, humor, sexuality, creativity, hunger, movement, relationships, and possibilities.
You may require treatment, but treatment should help you live rather than convince you that you are nothing more than an illness.
I want life to begin appearing again.
Laughter Is Also Movement
When spontaneous laughter returns after a period of emotional flatness or heaviness, notice it. You do not need to analyze it immediately.
Laughter changes breathing, facial muscles, abdominal movement, and social engagement. More importantly, it can remind you that your system is capable of another state.
Do not force happiness. Notice when aliveness begins returning naturally.
Sexual Energy Is Part of Human Life
Now I want to address an area that many people are ashamed to discuss: sexual energy. Sexual desire is not evidence that something is wrong with you. It is one natural dimension of human physiology and psychology.
In Kundalini and tantric frameworks, sexuality may also be understood as an expression of life force concentrated around the lower body. I use this spiritual language to help you explore your relationship with desire, pleasure, inhibition, and embodied vitality.
But sexual energy should be approached consciously rather than fearfully or compulsively.
Suppression Is Different From Conscious Choice
There is a difference between having a sexual impulse and consciously deciding not to act on it, and having an impulse while believing that the impulse itself is dirty or unacceptable. The second pattern can create shame and psychological conflict.
You do not have to act on every sexual urge. Neither do you have to hate yourself for experiencing one.
Freedom begins when you can feel desire without immediately becoming frightened by it.
Sexual Abstinence Does Not Automatically Create Neurosis
Do not create another fear by believing that sexual energy must be released within a fixed number of hours or days. There is no universal medical rule that abstinence automatically creates neurosis.
People have different levels of libido and make different sexual choices. Some are sexually active, some are temporarily abstinent, and some choose celibacy without becoming psychologically unhealthy.
The important question is whether your relationship with sexuality is conscious, healthy, voluntary, and free from destructive shame.
The Pelvis Can Carry Muscular Tension
Like the jaw, shoulders, abdomen, and chest, the pelvic region can become habitually tense. Stress, anxiety, posture, physical inactivity, pelvic-floor dysfunction, sexual history, and many other factors can influence how this area feels.
This is why pelvic awareness can be valuable. You are learning to recognize whether you are constantly gripping muscles that could sometimes relax.
Do not automatically interpret every pelvic sensation as blocked Kundalini or stored trauma.
Explore Pelvic Movement Without Shame
You can explore pelvic mobility privately in a comfortable and safe environment. Sit or kneel in a position that does not strain the knees, hips, or lower back, and use firm cushions for support if necessary.
Begin with small forward-and-back movements of the pelvis while keeping the breathing comfortable. Let the spine participate naturally instead of forcing a large movement.
The purpose is to discover mobility, sensation, and muscular release in an area that may have become physically or psychologically inhibited.
Movement Does Not Need a Sexual Label
The pelvis participates in walking, dancing, squatting, childbirth, sexual activity, balance, and countless ordinary movements. Moving it does not automatically mean you are performing a sexual act.
If embarrassment appears, notice the embarrassment. It may reveal how strongly you have learned to disconnect from this region of the body.
You are allowed to inhabit your entire body.
Do Not Force Sexual Arousal
Pelvic movement may sometimes produce sexual sensation because the region is naturally involved in sexuality. If that occurs during private self-exploration, you do not need to panic or shame yourself.
At the same time, you do not need to force arousal, orgasm, or any particular response. Let the body tell you what is actually happening.
The practice should increase self-awareness rather than create another performance requirement.
Sexual Self-Exploration Is Not a Medical Trauma Cure
Sexual release or pelvic movement may feel relieving for some people, but it should not be presented as a guaranteed method for removing trauma, psychiatric illness, or neurosis. Trauma involves complex psychological and physiological processes.
If sexual experiences themselves are connected with previous trauma, intense self-directed practices may even become emotionally difficult. In that situation, appropriate trauma-informed professional support can be valuable.
Your body should never be forced in the name of release.
Your Healing Does Not Depend on Another Person’s Presence
A teacher can guide you, demonstrate movement, help you observe patterns, and create a supportive environment. But do not believe that a safe self-regulation practice works only because a particular spiritual teacher is physically or energetically present.
One purpose of learning should be increasing your own capacity for regulation and discernment. You should gradually become less dependent, not more.
A genuine practice must eventually belong to you.
Pelvic Movement Can Become Cathartic Without Becoming Dramatic
Sometimes repetitive movement produces a feeling of release. The breath changes, muscles soften, emotions appear, or the body simply feels less rigid.
You may call this catharsis if the word is meaningful to you. But you do not need dramatic shaking, crying, sexual release, or extraordinary sensations to prove that something happened.
Quiet relaxation is also release.
Let Sound Arise Naturally
During movement or breathwork, a sigh, laugh, yawn, or other spontaneous sound may emerge. Allow natural expression without deliberately performing an emotional state.
Your throat and jaw are also parts of the body that can carry muscular tension. Relaxing them may change the overall experience.
Expression should feel spontaneous rather than commanded.
Kundalini Should Not Become an Explanation for Everything
During a Kundalini awakening journey, people may interpret unusual physical or emotional experiences through the language of energy. This framework can provide spiritual meaning, but it should not replace medical or psychological assessment.
Sexual arousal may be sexual arousal. Pelvic tension may be muscular tension. Anxiety may be anxiety.
Spiritual intelligence includes knowing when an ordinary explanation is enough.
Sexual Energy Can Be Understood as Life Force
Within my spiritual framework, sexual energy is one expression of the larger force that makes you want to connect, create, move, experience pleasure, and participate in life. When sexuality has been surrounded by fear or shame, reconnecting with the body may therefore feel like reconnecting with vitality.
But life force is larger than sexuality. You also experience it through appetite, creativity, curiosity, work, movement, affection, courage, and play.
Do not reduce your entire Kundalini journey to the sexual center.
The Lower Body Must Not Be Rejected
Many spiritual seekers want to reach the third eye, crown, enlightenment, or superconsciousness while remaining disconnected from the pelvis, legs, feet, hunger, sexuality, and ordinary physical life. I do not want that division.
Your lower body is part of you. Grounding, movement, sexuality, nourishment, and physical strength belong to embodied existence.
Spiritual evolution should integrate the organism rather than divide it into sacred and shameful regions.
Femininity Is Not Defined by Sexual Availability
Becoming more alive in your body does not mean you must become sexually available to another person. Femininity is not measured by how attractive, sexually expressive, or partnered you are.
You may explore softness, sensuality, strength, creativity, receptivity, pleasure, and expression in ways that belong authentically to you.
Your sexuality is one part of your identity, not the definition of your worth.
A Partner Is Not Required for Wholeness
Do not create another trauma by believing that you urgently need to find a sexual partner because sexual energy has appeared. A relationship should not be created merely to discharge bodily tension.
If companionship comes into your life, let it develop through mutual attraction, compatibility, respect, communication, and consent. Until then, you can still live fully.
Your completeness does not begin when somebody chooses you.
Do Not Chase Release Compulsively
If a practice feels relieving, there can be a temptation to repeat it constantly. More is not automatically better.
Observe how you feel afterward. Do you become calmer and more functional, or increasingly agitated and preoccupied? Does the practice support daily life or begin dominating it?
Life force mastery means learning regulation, not compulsive discharge.
There Is No Fixed Thirty-Minute Rule
You do not need to perform pelvic movement for exactly thirty minutes. Begin briefly and observe how your body responds.
If you experience pain, numbness, pelvic discomfort, dizziness, emotional overwhelm, or physical strain, stop. If persistent pelvic symptoms are present, obtain appropriate professional assessment.
Duration should follow regulation rather than ambition.
Healing Must Return You to Ordinary Life
After breathwork and energy practices, I want you to cook. I want you to walk. I want you to climb stairs when appropriate and become physically capable.
This is important because spirituality can otherwise become another way of withdrawing from life. Your progress should eventually appear in the ordinary functions of being human.
You should become more capable of caring for yourself.
Cooking Is an Embodiment Practice
When you knead dough, your hands press, fold, rotate, sense moisture, and adjust pressure. You are working with texture rather than living entirely inside thought.
Then you learn to make simple food for yourself. The activity has a beginning, a physical process, and a tangible result.
This kind of ordinary competence can be deeply grounding.
Expand Your Food Choices Gradually
If you have been eating a very restricted range of foods, gradually learn different preparations that suit your health, culture, digestion, and nutritional needs. Roti, rice, dal, vegetables, curd, breads, and different grains can provide variety when they are appropriate for you.
Millets and other grains can also be explored as part of a varied diet. But no single grain should be presented as a treatment for the nervous system.
Nutrition works through the overall pattern of eating.
Do Not Divide Foods Into Magical Categories
Rice and roti are both carbohydrate-rich foods, but they are not nutritionally identical. Different grains contain different amounts of fiber, protein, micronutrients, and other components.
You do not need to fear one or worship another. Learn portions, combinations, preparation, and how your own body responds.
Food should nourish you without becoming another source of anxiety.
Let Food Become Interesting Again
Changing ingredients and preparations can make eating more enjoyable. The same basic ingredients can become different dishes through changes in spices, vegetables, texture, and cooking methods.
Learning these variations increases independence and sensory engagement. You begin participating in your nourishment instead of treating food merely as fuel that appears automatically.
This participation itself is valuable.
Build Stamina Through Everyday Movement
You do not need a complicated fitness program to begin moving more. Walking and using stairs can become practical forms of daily activity when your health and joints allow them.
If you normally use an elevator for every floor, begin taking some stairs. Increase gradually rather than suddenly forcing yourself through several flights.
Your body becomes stronger through progressive demand followed by adequate recovery.
Stairs Train More Than the Legs
Climbing stairs requires the heart, lungs, legs, balance, and coordination to work together. Because you are lifting your body against gravity, the effort can become substantial quickly.
This makes stair climbing useful but also means that intensity must suit your fitness. Stop if you develop concerning chest pain, severe breathlessness, dizziness, or other unusual symptoms.
Training should build capacity, not punish the body.
Physical Strength Is Part of Psychological Recovery
When you become physically capable of walking farther, climbing stairs, preparing your food, moving your pelvis freely, and completing ordinary tasks, your relationship with yourself changes. You begin accumulating evidence that you can act.
This matters when you have spent months feeling helpless or dependent. Capability itself becomes psychological information.
Your body says, I can participate in life.
Do Not Become Obsessed With Techniques
Breathing is a technique. Pelvic movement is a technique. Cooking, walking, and physical training can all become practices.
But eventually I want you to stop thinking about techniques every minute. The purpose is to restore life, not create a life completely occupied by self-treatment.
You should become free enough to forget the technique because you are busy living.
Your Progress Should Increase Your Independence
Ask yourself whether you are becoming more capable of functioning without constant reassurance. Can you prepare your own meal? Can you organize your day? Can you move your body and notice what it needs?
Can you recognize when you need professional help and seek it appropriately? Can you experience emotion without immediately becoming overwhelmed?
These are powerful signs of integration.
Your Breath Should Serve Life
Breathing practice is not valuable because you perform thousands of exhalations. It is valuable when it helps you become calmer, more aware, and more available to your life.
Use the exhalation when you notice unnecessary holding. Then return to natural nasal breathing and continue what you were doing.
The breath is your companion, not another obsession.
Your Sexuality Should Serve Life
Sexual energy is not something you must destroy, fear, or worship. It is something you can understand.
Notice desire without shame. Explore the body safely and privately if you choose. Build healthy relationships when they arise naturally.
Sexuality becomes integrated when it no longer controls you and no longer frightens you.
Your Food Should Serve Life
Eat in a way that gives your body adequate nourishment, variety, and enjoyment. Learn to prepare food because self-care is part of independence.
Do not search endlessly for one magical diet that will solve every energetic or psychological problem. Your body requires consistent nourishment more than nutritional mythology.
Let eating become simple again.
Your Movement Should Serve Life
Walk because you have legs. Climb because your body can learn. Strengthen yourself because independence requires physical capacity.
Do not exercise merely to punish your appearance or prove discipline. Train because you want the organism carrying you through life to remain capable.
Physical vitality is one expression of life force mastery.
Life Force Moves Through the Whole Organism
I do not want your consciousness trapped only in your head. Bring awareness into your breath, throat, chest, abdomen, pelvis, legs, hands, appetite, movement, sexuality, and daily actions.
This is what embodiment means. You stop existing as a mind dragging a body behind it.
You become one living organism again.
Release Does Not Mean Losing Control
There is a difference between letting unnecessary tension go and becoming uncontrolled. Real release should eventually increase your ability to choose.
You can feel anger without destroying something. You can experience sexual desire without becoming compulsive. You can feel sadness without losing your entire life inside it.
The freer your energy becomes, the greater your responsibility for how you use it.
Your Body Does Not Need More Shame
Many people already carry shame about mental health, sexuality, appetite, physical weakness, dependency, or the inability to function as they once did. Shame usually adds another layer of contraction.
Begin with curiosity instead. What is happening in me? What does my body need? What can I learn today?
Curiosity creates room for change.
Do Not Call Yourself Dead When You Are Recovering
If you have been emotionally flat, exhausted, withdrawn, or unresponsive, harsh labels do not help your nervous system recover. Notice every genuine return of life instead.
A laugh matters. Cooking matters. Walking matters. Feeling desire matters. Wanting something matters.
These ordinary movements can become signs that participation in life is returning.
Healing Is Not One Dramatic Event
You may want one technique that releases everything forever. Human transformation rarely works that way.
You breathe differently today. You walk tomorrow. You learn to cook. You express something you previously suppressed. You become stronger over weeks and months.
The accumulated direction of these changes matters more than one spectacular experience.
Do Not Promise Yourself a Hundred-Day Cure
A structured period of practice can create meaningful change, but no responsible teacher can guarantee that a serious psychiatric or medical condition will disappear within exactly one hundred days. Healing trajectories differ from person to person.
Set goals around function, regulation, independence, physical health, emotional expression, and quality of life. Let medical professionals monitor conditions that require medical treatment.
Progress does not become less spiritual because it takes time.
Life Force Mastery Is the Return of Participation
Ultimately, I want you to participate again. Breathe consciously when needed, but do not spend your entire day thinking about breathing. Explore your sexuality without shame, but do not make sexuality your entire identity.
Eat, cook, walk, climb, laugh, work, communicate, and become physically stronger. Let energy become action.
Life force is not something you merely feel inside the body. It is the power with which you begin living your life again.