Part of my Kundalini and Relationships guide · Teachings by Guru Sanju
Background
In this real incident, I, Siddha Guru Sanju, received a session booking from a former student named Elisa from Italy. Her past interactions had been marked by disrespect, entitled behavior, and repeated boundary violations. During a previous project, she had shown disregard for spiritual etiquette and the Guru–student relationship. Despite this, I agreed to give her a chance for a final session, hoping she had evolved.
However, her energy and approach made it immediately clear that she was not seeking transformation but attention. What unfolded became not just a personal confrontation, but a living teaching on how to deal with people who carry a shitty attitude—those who pollute your space with negativity, arrogance, and emotional manipulation. The following discourse emerged directly from that moment, offering a powerful lesson in energetic integrity and self-respect.
The Discourse
Beginning the Session
Yes. Hello, Elisa? Yes. I’m good. I’ll diagnose you first. So you need to look into the camera. Yes, awesome.
Okay, wait. First you look into the camera. I’ll diagnose you, and everything else we’ll discuss in this session. Now show me your hand one by one—right hand first, like this. Hold it a little at a distance so I can see. Yes. Now your left hand. Perfect.
All right. First of all, in this session, you can ask only two questions. Make sure both are truly important for you. Regarding those only, I am going to answer. Now close your eyes and go inside. Ask only the two questions that matter the most to you.
They should not be about me. They should be about you.
Now you can ask.
Why have you taken this session, Elisa?
Listen carefully. There is no project about Italy henceforth. Due to your attitude—your shitty attitude—we have canceled all plans to work with you in any capacity. You are not eligible. You do not know how to talk, how to behave. And this session too—I am not going to waste my time.
If you have come here expecting tolerance, you are mistaken. You have insulted me before, during the project, and in the last conversation. You spoke like a fool, asking questions that crossed the sacred line between student and Guru—as if the Guru’s guidance could be confused with something physical or personal.
All this bullshit, this nonsense—I will not tolerate. If you have connected today for attention, then the call is over. I will ask my team to refund your money. Two minutes of my life are already wasted talking to you. Goodbye.
The session is over.
The Lesson About Boundaries
This is how I deal with people who carry a shitty attitude. Whether it is a student, client, or anyone in this world, I am not here to tolerate anyone’s bullshit. This is my principle.
And this moment itself becomes a discourse—on how to deal with people who disrespect your energy and boundaries. You must tell them exactly what you feel, immediately, without suppressing it inside.
Never take anyone’s dirt into your inner space.
When such people appear in your life, remember: they come not for growth, but for attention. This woman had no personal question, no genuine desire to evolve. She simply wanted to pull my energy into her drama. She could have emailed my team for administrative matters, but she chose to disturb me directly—seeking my presence, my reaction.
Protecting Your Inner Space
But I protect my energy field.
When someone like that enters, I remove them powerfully. I do not let their vibration linger.
That is how you must live too. Speak your truth. Do not entertain disrespect. Protect your energy as sacred. And when necessary—send the negativity out of your field with strength and clarity.
That is how I do it. That is how you must do it too.
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