The Core Teaching
Your attention is your most valuable currency. When you repeatedly give it to people whose judgment leaves you feeling inadequate and unable to be yourself, your own life loses its center. My instruction is to reclaim that attention, establish boundaries, and do the challenging work of creating an individual life. Freedom means being present to your own direction and responsibilities instead of continually organizing your existence around the people who unsettle you.
Part of my Kundalini and Relationships guide · Teachings by Guru Sanju
When Someone’s Presence Changes Your Energy
Have you noticed that in the presence of certain people, you suddenly become agitated, sensitive, or constantly alert? You do not feel like yourself. You feel disintegrated, lost, and as though something has been taken away from you simply by being in their presence.
This feeling that something has been stolen from you can become extremely profound. It can feel as though energy is leaking from your field, and this leakage does not allow you to remain fully present within yourself.
When you are alone, you may feel completely present. But the moment certain people enter your field, thoughts are triggered, obsessive thinking begins, and your body becomes extremely sensitive to their touch or communication. You need to understand why this happens.
Sensitivity Is Also a Response to Your Environment
Consider what happens when excessive sunlight falls directly into your eyes. Your body automatically changes position and moves somewhere more comfortable because your senses cannot comfortably process that extra light. Your body naturally responds to what it experiences.
Similarly, when Kundalini has awakened, there can be many reasons why you become sensitive to the energies of certain people. But first understand that nervous system dysregulation can also create sensitivity without Kundalini being the cause.
Get yourself medically checked if you have symptoms of nervous system dysregulation. If medical treatment or medication is required, work with qualified medical practitioners. If you have addressed those possibilities and still recognize that the experience is specifically connected with Kundalini, then you can begin looking at why particular people are triggering you.
Your Attention Is Your Most Valuable Currency
The people you remain energetically connected with are able to affect you because you have given them your attention. You pay attention to them, and your attention is your most valuable currency. If certain people continually drain you, that attention needs to be withdrawn from them completely.
I call people who continually take away your attention energy vampires. In their presence, you feel lost and do not have enough space to be yourself. They do not listen to you, they leave you drained, reduce your confidence, judge you, and continually make you feel that you are not enough.
This feeling of not being enough is not your reality. It has been imposed upon you, and after being exposed to it repeatedly, you may begin believing that it is true.
Understand Who Is Taking Your Energy
If you look closely, you may find that the people triggering your Kundalini energy have not completed their own dreams or lived their own lives fully. When you begin celebrating your life and becoming successful, they may behave as though they deserve to participate in your success and receive a piece of what you have created.
Ask yourself what their contribution has actually been to your life and to the person you have become. Whether you consider yourself successful or not, if Kundalini has awakened within you, she has awakened to make you free, more powerful, more important to yourself, and more selfish about your own life.
But these people do not give you confidence. They want you to feel like a loser instead of allowing you to focus on the success and prosperity of your own life.
The Trigger Can Come From People Closest to You
When you are going through Kundalini awakening and beginning to focus on your own life, these disturbances can come from the people around you. They may include:
- Your family members.
- Your parents.
- Your spouse.
- Your children.
- Your friends and relatives.
- Your colleagues.
- Anyone with whom you interact regularly.
When you move away from these people, you may suddenly notice your energy becoming integrated again. The solution to continually experiencing their triggers is to begin creating your own life.
Create Your Own Life
I created my own life. It has been decades since I left the matrix, and Kundalini has rewarded me. Since then, I have lived life in full glory, in nature, and in the way I want to live.
There is no one who can distract my attention and no one to whom I am answerable. I am answerable to myself, to my own prosperity, and to the universal forces working through me, but not to a single person within the matrix.
You are an adult and a free citizen. If you are living within society and fulfilling your responsibilities such as paying your taxes, you are a free man or woman who can live your life individually. Ultimately, this individuality gives you strength and power, and individuality is important in the Kundalini awakening journey.
Stop Giving Your Life to What Triggers You
Why waste your life repeatedly meeting or remaining in the company of people who trigger your Kundalini? Why not create your own life?
Is that easy? No. It is completely challenging. You have to overcome challenges. I have overcome those challenges in my own life and reached where I am today, and that experience is why I am the expert, the Guru, and the master.
Freedom Requires a Different Environment
I conduct physical projects in large and powerful natural energy vortexes where the earth, sun, sky, and surrounding nature work with me. When these forces work with me, the students who work with me become free from their issues and progress in their Kundalini journey.
Without this, there is no Kundalini progression. Not a single person can take you to a state of freedom when they are themselves binding you. They can make you feel like a prisoner while they become the jailer.
Do you want to live that kind of life? It is a choice. Life has been given to you to decide what quality of life you want to experience.
Choose Freedom and Become Present to Yourself
If you want to experience freedom, you can experience freedom. If you want to experience bondage, you can experience bondage. It is a choice.
Once you are an adult, focus your life on living fully in this moment and feeling everything completely. If you are here, be completely here. When you become present in this way, your electromagnetic field becomes strong, your heart’s electromagnetic field expands, and you begin feeling integrated within your body.
The Soul Wants a Simple Life
When there is no human disturbance around you and you are completely with yourself, you can experience the freedom of the soul. The soul wants to be free. The soul does not want to remain in the matrix, surrounded by unnecessary people and complexity.
The soul is very simple. The goal of the soul is to live life.
If you live this way, you can experience the freedom that I experience every moment. I can sit on the earth wherever I want to sit. I can eat what I want to eat, sleep when I want to sleep, and rest when I need to rest. This is real freedom.
Activate Your Energy by Focusing on Your Life
Everything begins happening through the universal forces when your energy is activated. Your energy can also become activated when you begin focusing on your own life instead of continually giving your attention away.
First, get yourself diagnosed through an online consultation. If you then want to work more deeply on yourself and experience this directly, you can also come and work with me through a physical project.
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