How to Heal from Narcissistic Abuse – A Practical and Energetic Guide

Part of my Kundalini and Relationships guide · Teachings by Guru Sanju

Understanding the Root Cause of Narcissistic Abuse

Before applying any healing technique, you must first understand the reason behind the abuse you experienced. Without this clarity, any healing effort is superficial. The truth is: narcissistic abuse often takes root when you unconsciously choose the role of the victim.

Yes, you play the victim. The perpetrator — the one who abuses you — thrives on your unconscious submission. This dynamic often begins in childhood, particularly when parents dominate, emotionally neglect, or burden you with unrealistic expectations.

If you were emotionally abandoned, if your parents could not help you grow into an independent being, they may have instead resorted to abuse. Perhaps you were not good at studies or sports. You may have been an introvert, sensitive, or different from what they wanted. They blamed you for it.

And why? Because they themselves were not conscious beings. Let me say this directly: they never planned your birth. It was an unconscious physical act that resulted in your arrival. You were born into a world where you were not truly wanted. This is not your fault. But you were a mistake in their eyes. That is the painful truth — and the very truth that will set you free.

The moment you accept this reality, you begin to take responsibility for your life. Not by forgiving them. Not by excusing their unconsciousness. But by saying no. A powerful no. By hitting back — not with violence, but with clarity, strength, and sovereignty.

I do not believe in the empty philosophy of forgiveness. I am a practical guru. No amount of forgiving will heal you — not when the wound is deep. If someone has abused you emotionally, physically, mentally, energetically, or spiritually, it is your sacred duty to bounce back and hit the truth right onto their face.

Now, I will share three powerful techniques that will help you heal faster than you ever imagined.

Technique 1: Speak the Truth Directly to the Abuser

Call the person who abused you. Speak the truth. Unfiltered, unedited.

Say exactly what you always wanted to say. Whether it is your parent, your spouse, a friend, or anyone else — tell them what they did to you.

If your life became miserable because of them, say it:
“You made my life miserable. You have been the most toxic person I have encountered. My destiny was unfortunate that I was born to you. My karma was heavy that you were my spouse.”

Even if you are still in the relationship, even if you haven’t separated yet — say it. Speak it on their face.

When you do this, your throat chakra will open. All the trauma trapped in your chest and voice will begin to release. A huge burden will lift from your heart. You will feel the sudden emergence of self-love. For the first time, perhaps, you will feel how deeply you love yourself. This action is your return to yourself.

Do it now. If they are far away, still call them. Even if it leads to a breakdown, let it happen. Let your soul speak.

Technique 2: Diaphragm Release to Clear Trapped Energies

Narcissistic abuse lives in your energy body, especially in your subconscious field. Even when you’re not actively remembering it, the energy remains lodged in your system — particularly in the area below your ribcage.

Here’s what to do:

1. Locate the triangle area just below your sternum where the ribcage ends — this is the diaphragm.
2. Make your hands into strong fists or knuckles, curved inward with intensity.
3. Place them at this spot on your body and apply pressure.
4. As you press in, exhale strongly. The force should not come from the hands pushing in, but from the diaphragm pushing out against the hands.

Now release sound as you do this — with your tongue out:

Hooo… hoo… haaa…

Let it be primal. Let it be raw. Let it be loud. Cry if it happens. Scream if it comes. Shake if you must.

This is not just a release — it is an exorcism of trauma.

When I do this with my students, they often begin crying uncontrollably. Tremors move through the body. Tears flow. The energy field gets cleared, and they no longer even remember the pain of the past.

You can also apply this pressing-exhale technique across your entire belly, wherever you feel tension. Press, inhale, and exhale forcefully. Your energy field will begin to purify itself from the toxic residues of the abuse.

Technique 3: Physical Reclamation Through Movement

Once the voice is spoken and the belly is cleared, the next step is to move the body with power. This is how you reclaim your space.

Here is how to perform this energetic movement:

1. Stand up in Warrior Pose.
2. Lock your knees, ground your feet.
3. Make powerful fists with both hands.
4. With strength, move your arms like you are punching the air down and forward — not randomly, but with force, rhythm, and intention.

Huh! Huh! Huh!

Feel the fire in your belly. Let the stored anger, helplessness, and frozen pain be thrown out through this gesture. You can repeat this for several minutes depending on how much trauma you carry.

Do not stop until your body begins to relax and breathe freely again.

The Path Forward: Beyond Techniques

These are just three of many techniques I have developed and shared with thousands of students through different healing projects. Your abuse may have roots in this life, past lives, karmic contracts, ancestral patterns — but the solution always lies in your energy field.

Narcissistic abuse must be removed completely from your system. Not only for your peace, but to prevent future rebirths of this same karmic cycle.

You don’t deserve to suffer like this. But since it is your life, it is your responsibility to transform it.

A Final Reflection

When you walk outside and step into cow dung, you don’t carry it into your home. You wipe it off your shoes and walk cleanly into your new space.

The same way, leave the past behind. Let go of that which is no longer serving your soul. The shit of the past is not your reality anymore.

Your soul is begging for freedom. The only way is release.

Let go. Reclaim yourself. And if you feel called to go deeper, you are welcome to connect with me. You can receive my consulting, diagnosis, and join the projects I have created specifically for healing such deep-rooted energy wounds.

Everything you need is already within you. All you need is the courage to act now.

Thank you.

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