Part of my Kundalini and Relationships guide · Teachings by Guru Sanju
When Vijay came to me, I could see something clearly.
People like talking to him. They are drawn to him.
This is not accidental.
When someone’s consciousness starts rising, others feel it. Even if they don’t understand it intellectually, they sense the energy. Most people are functioning from lack — lack of awareness, lack of presence — so when they encounter someone whose consciousness is shifting, they are pulled toward it.
I allowed him to continue speaking. Expression is important. But I also knew what needed correction.
When you live in a certain way for too long, you become that way.
That is unconscious living.
Human beings absorb patterns from their environment. If you grow up in a space where everyone talks the same way, thinks the same way, reacts the same way, a collective mind forms. That collective mind decides what is “normal.”
For example:
People believe a human must own a house to live properly.
That is not reality. That is conditioning.
A human can live in a cave.
A human can live in a camp.
A human can travel continuously and rent places.
But the collective mind creates beliefs and then defends them as truth.
Vijay’s brain had been exposed to one environment for a long time, so it learned to think and speak in a fixed pattern. My role in the session was to break that pattern — not emotionally, but intelligently.
This session was not about motivation.
It was about re-learning how to think and communicate consciously.
Conscious Communication
I corrected something very specific.
He wrote a sentence about receiving blessings from a guru — but he wrote it in a general, impersonal way.
That is unconscious communication.
When you are talking about your own experience, you must speak in the first person.
Not:
“A blessing from a guru is the greatest gift one can get.”
But:
“A blessing from my guru is the greatest gift I can receive.”
This is not grammar.
This is consciousness.
When you speak impersonally, you disconnect from your own experience. When you speak personally, the nervous system aligns with truth.
I asked him to rewrite the sentence — slowly — while doing belly breathing.
Breathing and communication together rewire the brain.
This is how unconscious patterns dissolve.
Freedom Is Practical, Not Mystical
I told him something important.
Freedom is not esoteric.
Freedom is not dramatic.
Freedom is functional.
I have been free for many years. I don’t teach fantasy freedom. I teach practical freedom — freedom that makes you more grounded, more capable, more intelligent in daily life.
I never asked for enlightenment in this life.
All I wanted was an end to suffering.
Because I was born as a guru, I didn’t have a guru. Intelligence downloads directly through me, and I express it. That is my function.
When I take someone to a higher frequency, there is no role, no ego, no identity — only energy.
Most people are like producers of a movie who mistakenly identify as a five-minute supporting character. Then they live with the limitations of that character.
That is what identity does.
Evolution of the Brain and Identity
I explained evolution to him in very simple terms.
The human brain has layers:
- Reptilian brain (instinct)
- Limbic brain (emotion)
- Cognitive brain (reason)
We are not doing anything new today. We are only refining old functions. Technology is just refined movement. Intelligence is just refined awareness.
When you come to your center — not mentally, but energetically — all data becomes available. The soul has limited data. Consciousness has universal data.
At that point, you stop identifying as “Vijay.”
You observe Vijay.
This is where real transformation begins.
Breathing, Ego Dissolution, and Health
I told him clearly:
If you do this breathing without expectation — just as a natural function — it will dismantle your ego.
One hundred repetitions is the first breaking point.
Breathing changes DNA.
It changes sleep.
It changes digestion.
It changes how karma is created.
When your state changes, you don’t get angry.
You don’t store emotion.
You don’t create unnecessary karma.
Walking away from conflict is not weakness.
It is intelligence.
Kundalini, Shiva, and Patience
I explained Kundalini practically — not spiritually romanticized.
Kundalini is feminine energy.
Mind is like uncontrolled children.
Consciousness is Shiva — the stable presence.
At later stages, you must give less importance to Kundalini and more importance to Shiva. Otherwise, energy will constantly push you to “do something” prematurely.
Patience is mastery.
Physical Parameters Matter
I made him track physical changes:
- Skin
- Fat
- Diabetes levels
- Sleep
- Digestion
- Energy
Spirituality that does not reflect in the body is incomplete.
Conscious breathing, conscious eating, conscious movement — these create measurable change.
Homework: Conscious Living
Before ending the session, I gave very clear tasks:
- Practice conscious communication with everyone
- Move the body deliberately, not habitually
- Change small actions consciously
- Introduce breathing gently to parents
- Practice deliberate laughter therapy (30 minutes)
Laughter releases trapped energy faster than most techniques. It activates the right brain and restores childlike ease.
Closing the Session
I reminded him:
Satsang is not passive listening.
Satsang is nervous system rewiring through presence.
When consciousness shifts, earlier communication feels robotic. That awareness itself is progress.
This session was about eligibility — earning the next level by stabilizing this one.
Transformation is earned through practice, not desire.
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