Part of my Kundalini and Relationships guide · Teachings by Guru Sanju
Background
I, Sanju, speak here on one of the most difficult truths for many people to hear: parents, responsibility, independence, and, masculinity. This discourse is not meant for comfort. It is meant to shake the dependent mind and expose the hidden emotional structures that keep a person trapped in guilt, obligation, fear, and social conditioning.
At the center of this teaching is one essential point: I support individuality, not bondage. When life force rises, it pushes a person toward self-responsibility, financial independence, and a courageous break from emotional cages. I speak especially to men here, because many men remain psychologically tied to parents long after adulthood, and that dependence weakens their direction, confidence, and power.
Through this discourse, I clarify what true responsibility is, what independence means, and how a new kind of man can be born through conscious rebellion, health, purpose, and decisive action.
Your Parents Are Not Your Responsibility
Your parents are not your responsibility, because you have not given birth to your parents. You are the responsibility of your parents because, to be very direct, they had an intimate relationship with each other and either consciously or unconsciously made the decision to give birth to you.
As a species, it is the responsibility of the parents to take care of the child till the time the child becomes independent.
Now, this independence is highly subjective, because each parent decides for themselves whether they are truly responsible for the independence of the child. Independence of the child means that the child should be able to take care of himself or herself by the time adulthood is reached.
Why Real Independence Is Missing
But in the present world, as I can see, there is no real independence in any child, any person, or any individual, because almost all human beings available on this planet are clones of society, clones of the matrix, clones of their parents themselves.
Parents do not make their children independent anymore, and they have not done it for many eras of growing up.
Maybe in early times, when human beings were less socially conditioned and the evolutionary process was still raw and instinctive, after a certain age parents would become free from the children. Once adulthood was attained, once childhood and teenage ended, that phase was over.
But nowadays parents can trap the child for an unlimited period of time.
How Parents Turn Children into Investments
Nowadays, many parents invest in their children in order to get returns on their investment, in the form of salary, support, and dependence later in life. I am speaking in general, not about any specific country or any one person. I simply want to make you aware of the independence that you should have after a certain age.
If you have become an adult, if you are taking responsibility for your life, then you should become selfish — extremely selfish.
Why I Am Addressing Men Directly
Especially here, I am addressing men who can live an independent life. That is where my role as Guru, Master, and guide comes in. I can make you into an alpha male. I can make you into a person who takes individual and independent responsibility for his life.
For that, the most important responsibility is financial independence.
Financial Independence Is Not the Same as Financial Freedom
By doing a job, you cannot gain true financial independence. Financial independence is a completely different concept.
And financial independence is different from being financially free.
Being financially free refers to a stage where you no longer need to work actively for money, because maybe your investments, your business, or other income sources are already supporting your lifestyle. That is one thing.
But financial independence, as I am speaking of it, is different. It is connected to life purpose.
What Financial Independence Really Means
Financial independence means that you are a man with a high level of testosterone, a high level of confidence, and a deep trust in yourself. You know that you have enough money for a certain period of time, and even if you need more, you can earn it through effort, through business, through enterprise, through creative ideas, or through inventions that you bring into the world.
It is a completely different state of being.
Since I have created powerful men who are operating strongly in this world, I can guide you in a definite direction where you know exactly what you want to do with your independence.
The First Brutal Step
First of all, if you are already supporting your parents unnecessarily, and they are caging you in their trap through emotional blackmail, and you are actually a victim of that blackmail, then the first thing you need to do is to leave your parents.
You have to go all out on your own — in a different land, a different country, a different continent. You have to change the place of your origin.
This is a must if you want to become an alpha male.
The One-Year Transformation
More about the alpha male you will come to know when you contact my team and understand how you can participate in the one-year project of becoming an alpha male.
Now let me give you the clarity behind becoming an alpha male.
What an Alpha Male Is
An alpha male is not of this world. An alpha male is not at all of the matrix. An alpha male is the one who has the highest consciousness and the highest masculine energy to operate in the world on his own terms.
He exists. Others adjust.
If you want to become an alpha male, you have to get rid of all addictions. You have to get rid of every different kind of addiction that you have. You have to become healthy.
Only a healthy man, with a high level of testosterone, a high level of dopamine release, and a high level of life purpose, can become the one I am creating.
Alpha Male as a New Species
The alpha male is a new species. It is not available in this world. It is the next level of evolution that happens when you actually leave the matrix, when you actually leave society, and when you actually leave your parents.
Your parents cannot make you an alpha male.
An alpha male is a powerful male who has control of his life. He is not dependent on the destiny created by society, the world, or the matrix. He is not a victim of the present setup or the infrastructure provided by the world.
He makes use of the infrastructure for his own evolution.
Everything Is Available — But How Do You Use It?
Everything is available in the world. But how do you make use of it?
That is the question.
So it is a dynamic, transformative, instinctive, and unpredictable life of the male who makes use of everything in his entire journey.
Closing
If you are interested in becoming an alpha male, then I am here for you.
Thank you, and bye-bye.
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