Part of my Kundalini and Relationships guide · Teachings by Guru Sanju
Background
I, Guru Sanju, speak here about one of the deepest currencies of life: attention. Most men do not lose their power first through money, status, or external failure. They lose it through scattered attention. When attention is lost, energy is lost. When energy is lost, purpose collapses.
In this discourse, I explain why a high-value alpha male is not created by money alone, but by the disciplined direction of his attention toward his own life, growth, health, and generative power. I also speak about how the matrix trains men to chase, please, and serve external demands instead of building their own empire from within. This teaching is about reclaiming that lost currency.
It is about becoming a man who no longer leaks himself into distractions, desires, dependence, or empty investment patterns, but instead becomes a powerful, self-generating force who creates his own reality through conscious attention.
Alpha Male Is a High-Valued Man
Alpha male is a high-valued man. What do I mean by high value? High value means that you do not seek attention from other people for your survival. You are paying all your valuable attention to yourself. High value does not come from money. High value comes from how attentive you are to yourself and how much your attention plays the role of currency through which you deal with the world.
This is a totally different perspective of living life, where you value your attention the highest and make your attention the most valuable currency through which you deal with the world.
The First Transaction: Woman and Attention
For example, I will share with you the value of your attention in terms of different transactions that an alpha male deals with. The first example could be dealing with a woman.
Now the matrix that you are already living in has a totally different concept. Here the woman is celebrated, and men are after women as if there is a dearth of women in the world. This is what an alpha male does not do.
An alpha male makes himself valuable. Since he is charismatic, attractive, powerful, and giving attention to himself, he is increasing his own self-worth. Through that, women get attracted to him. They come to the man. They come to the alpha male.
The alpha male does not chase women, because you need to know that once you start paying your attention to a woman, that woman is going to run your life. The most valuable and precious asset that you have is your attention. When you lose your attention, you lose everything.
Where Lost Attention Leads
Just pay attention to a woman, and she may rob you of your life’s purpose. When your life purpose is robbed, then everything that you do in life starts going towards fulfilling the dreams of that woman. The woman will want you to get married. The woman will want you to give birth to children, have lots of money, earn for their survival, and fulfill their dreams. And this becomes a continuous journey.
So in my view, the entire world is a mess. There is no real man left in the present world because you have lost your semen, the most valuable power that you had. You have lost your attention, the most valuable resource that you have. You have lost your money. And now you do not know how to rebuild your empire.
You cannot rebuild your empire like this, because your core currency is lost. That currency is your attention.
Even Solitude Does Not Help If the Mind Is Hijacked
Even if you withdraw yourself from the world, even if you withdraw yourself from women and live in solitude, ultimately your mind has already been destroyed, hijacked, and brainwashed, and you cannot think about focusing on your life. You are conditioned to take care of women. This is all built into you.
I see every individual born into the present world as equally equipped to take care of themselves. If they focus on their life, there is no reason someone should be dependent on another person. Every individual should be dependent on himself or herself. That person should not seek the attention of another person.
The Money Game Behind Relationships
Everything is happening for the money game. Everyone needs the money earned by the other person, especially females. Why do they need so much money? It is not because of needs, but because of desires. They have more desires than men. Man by nature is a very simple being. But women have lots of desires, and to fulfill those desires, you become a donkey of the matrix, of the society, and you keep following what the woman demands.
When you go deep into this research and study how the world operates, you will know that in the background, it is the mother of that woman who has conditioned her to get the nice guy, to get the person who is taking care of everything, and who has already left his own parents behind to build that structure.
Start Your Research with Your Own Life
So it is a good way to start your research. First of all, look at your own life. Whether it is your mother, your sister, your girlfriend, your female colleagues, your spouse, or your wife — which of these women is really interested in your career, your life purpose, your evolution individually? Are any of them interested in your life? Nobody is.
Similarly, if you take examples from business and jobs, you will find the same with other men. Men who are lower in energy do not want you to become a leader. If you are doing a job, the world will make sure that you keep doing more job. You may keep ascending in the promotional journey, becoming the CEO, becoming the MD, but ultimately you are in the jail — only now you are the MD of the jail.
You still have no enterprising ability. You still have no entrepreneurial skill. You have never invested in yourself to become a high-value man. You have always been trained to become the donkey and the rat of the matrix.
What the Matrix Does to a Man
After you reach the age of forty or forty-five, you are drained. You are addicted. You have lost all your ojas. Ojas means the vital energy that makes you a man. You have lost your testosterone. You have lost your natural dopamine release. And now you need so many addictions and so much money to maintain your diseased body. You have so much hospitalization expense, so many medical bills, and many other things that can never make you an independent man.
So it is a total reversal journey to become the high-value alpha male that I create, that I have been creating.
Life Purpose, Not Women’s Dreams
That is why I am confident that if you want to become an alpha male, you have to focus on your life purpose, not on the life purpose and dreams of women around you.
If you are a high-value man, you will get females from all over the world, because females have a great connection with money and a masculine man.
Closing
That is all for this topic.
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