Part of my Kundalini and Relationships guide · Teachings by Guru Sanju
Background
In this discourse, Guru Sanju diagnoses a woman going through Kundalini awakening, emotional confusion, relationship stagnation, and the illusion of a so-called twin flame connection. She reveals that the student’s Kundalini awakened years ago, but the energy has now aggravated because the body, marriage, sexuality, mind, and nervous system are all in a state of incompletion.
The central transformation offered is from fantasy to truth. Guru Sanju dismantles the false idea that twin flames are one soul divided into two bodies and explains the real meaning of Shiva-Shakti union as a rare divine partnership meant for a universal purpose.
She shows that unresolved sexual needs, emotional loneliness, marital dissatisfaction, attention leakage, social media distraction, and mental projection can create hallucination, obsession, and energetic dependency. The student is not asked to escape responsibility, but to return to herself, her innocence, her body, her clarity, and her center.
This teaching matters because it exposes how the mind can spiritualize incompleteness and call it destiny. Guru Sanju brings the seeker back to truth, energy integration, self-reflection, and the first step toward quantum transformation.
The First Diagnosis
When you come to me for Kundalini diagnosis, I first connect to your energy field. I read what is happening in the body, the mind, the nervous system, and the energy system.
Your Kundalini has awakened. It awakened long ago, perhaps around the age of twenty-five to thirty, but at that time it was mild and you were not fully aware of it.
Now it has aggravated, and that is why the symptoms have become more aggressive. Sleep disturbance, depression, lack of drive, mood swings, confusion, and the constant feeling of not knowing whether you are on the right path are all part of this phase.
This is the dark night of the soul. Before anything can be healed, the actual problem must be seen clearly.
The Misunderstanding of Twin Flames
The first major confusion is around this person whom you are calling your guru, twin flame, or spiritual connection. You need to understand the truth very clearly.
Twin flames are not one soul divided into two bodies. This is not the real understanding. This is a misconception that creates mental clutter and unnecessary suffering.
A true twin flame phenomenon is completely different. It happens when a complete man and a complete woman meet from their own spiritual integration, not from incompleteness.
The man carries pure masculine energy, the Shiva element, and the woman carries pure feminine energy, the Shakti element. Both are individually complete, awakened, and moving toward freedom.
The Real Shiva-Shakti Union
When such a man and woman meet, they do not meet for the matrix. They do not meet for affair, drama, marriage fantasy, sexual obsession, or emotional dependency.
They meet for a bigger purpose. Their purpose may be healing people, freeing people, serving the greater good, or working together for a divine and universal purpose.
Such twin flames are extremely rare. Out of billions of people, there may be only a few such pairs working together for one higher purpose.
If that is not the case, then most of the concepts surrounding twin flames are myths created by the mind, fantasy, incompleteness, and spiritual confusion.
He Is Not Your Twin Flame
From my reading, I know for sure that this person is not your twin flame. My role is to tell you the truth, even if the truth is bitter.
After that, it is on you to work on your issues and free yourself from the illusion. The purpose of the session is not to feed your confusion, but to remove it.
You are married, you have children, and there are unresolved problems in your relationship with your husband. These facts cannot be bypassed by calling another person your twin flame.
You must first see the human, instinctive, energetic, and sexual reality of your life as it is.
Sexual Incompletion and Neurosis
As a human organism, sexual energy has to be understood honestly. If you are married or in partnership, and your sexual needs are not fulfilled, the nervous system can go into imbalance.
The way the bowels need clearing, the sexual system also needs healthy fulfillment. If sexual energy is suppressed and blocked, sexual constipation and sexual neurosis can develop.
When the urge for sex arises and the nervous system holds it in freeze mode, that energy remains trapped in the body. It affects the brain, the nervous system, and the emotional field.
In such incompletion, if another person gives affection, attention, softness, or radiating energy, the mind may start calling that person a soul connection.
The Projection of Incompleteness
If you are incomplete within yourself, any person who gives attention or emotional comfort can appear extraordinary. The mind will create drama around that person.
You may feel that the person has some special spiritual connection with you. But from a healer’s perspective, it may simply be your incompleteness getting attached to another incomplete person.
That person may also be unhappy in his own life. He may also be seeking comfort, attention, or emotional support.
If he has the power to influence you, it can even become a kind of hypnosis. This is why you must step back and see the facts.
See the Facts, Not the Fantasy
Go back to the time when this whole connection started. Ask yourself what your relationship with your husband was like at that time.
Were you lonely? Were you emotionally hungry? Were you seeking a companion, a friend, or a person who could understand you?
Do not answer me from the surface. Go inside and investigate. Look at everything from a third-person perspective.
When you see clearly, you may realize that there are many aspects of the story that need to be reconsidered and re-evaluated.
Attention Leakage and Energy Loss
Your attention is your energy. When you give too much attention to someone, that person becomes a reality inside your mind.
Even if you are not speaking to him and not physically meeting him, if you are constantly imagining him in your head, your energy is going toward him.
This creates energy loss. Your aura, electromagnetic field, vitality, and clarity begin weakening.
This is similar to social media addiction. Whatever takes your attention repeatedly begins draining your life force.
The Possibility of Negative Influence
In some cases, such situations can become more serious if a person has negative intentions or lower energies. Sometimes people use dark practices, psychic influence, or hypnotic methods to keep another person attached.
I have the power to read whether such energy work has been done. If any dark energy practice has affected you, I can locate it and guide you toward the solution.
But first, you must become ready to see the truth. You must not protect the fantasy more than your own life.
You need clarity, not more imagination. You need integration, not more energetic leakage.
Return to Yourself
Take a break from everything that is happening. Spend time with yourself alone in nature.
Review your life from the beginning. See when the problems started arising in your marriage, sexuality, relationships, mind, and energy field.
Ask yourself how your life was before marriage. Ask how you were as a young girl, what your desires were, what your needs were, and where incompletion began.
This introspection will give you answers. It will help you see what you truly need at this moment.
You Need Yourself First
For now, you may realize that you do not need this person. You may also realize that you do not need your husband in the same way.
You may simply need yourself. You may need to feel integrated, healthy, innocent, and complete again before deciding anything about relationships.
This phase has to be crossed very carefully. Do not take decisions from confusion, obsession, fantasy, or emotional hunger.
First, become stable. First, return to your own center.
The Teacher Must Learn Again
You are professionally a teacher. A teacher must keep learning, reading, growing, and renewing herself.
If your attention is stuck in manly energy, romantic projection, sexual incompletion, and emotional confusion, your own growth stops.
You need to disconnect from the distracting energy and devote time to yourself as an individual. You must think about your life as a single soul, not only as wife, mother, or woman in confusion.
Your life has many areas that need attention. Each area must be addressed powerfully and confidently.
You Are Not a Victim
You are feeling victimized by all the situations. But you are not a victim.
You have the right to decide your life. You have the right to see clearly and take responsibility for your own energy.
For that, you need courage. You need energy. You need your brain to function in the best possible way.
When you keep sulking, overthinking, and going inward without solution, you enter deeper mess. Now you must come out of it.
Entering the Let-Go State
Close your eyes and relax completely. Keep breathing from the nose and focus on inhalation and exhalation.
Drop all the load from your shoulders. Let the hands become heavy, as if all the burdens have been thrown into the ground.
Relax your belly completely and enter the position of let go. Let go means you become like a small child who is not carrying the responsibility of everything.
Let the universe decide what is best for you. Right now, you do not need anyone around you. You need yourself first.
Return to the Lost Innocence
Feel that you want to eat good food, sleep, rest, breathe in nature, play like a child, and do nothing for some time.
You are tired of being a mother, wife, adult woman, and responsible person in the eyes of the world.
Go back to the childhood state where nothing was important. You played, danced, sang, and lived in freedom.
Feel that innocence again. Your innocence has been lost over the years because life became too complicated.
Safety in the Guru’s Presence
Tell your brain and nervous system that you are safe now. You have someone powerful, a master and mentor, to guide you on your path.
When you are guided, keep all distractions away. Your attention must come back to yourself.
The purpose of Kundalini is to realize who you are. But right now, you are disintegrated because your attention has gone too much into the outside world.
If you want to know yourself, you have to come back to your center and realize yourself as a pure being.
Do Not Think Your Way Out
If you want to feel complete, thinking will not solve the problem. Thinking about sex, relationship, twin flames, or another person will not give you any solution.
You must return to the body, to truth, to energy, to introspection, and to what is actually happening in your life.
This is the time to reflect: What do you want from yourself? What do you want from life?
These realizations will free you from many of your problems.
The First Step Toward Integration
Feel the stillness and calmness that you have reached. When you open your eyes with a smile, notice whether you can feel the lost innocence returning.
This innocence has to become permanent. It cannot remain a temporary moment in a session.
If you feel even a little shift from this session, take time to observe the changes. Then you can take another energy transmission session for deeper integration.
Slowly, you will know what is right for you. Do not decide only with the mind. Let energy decide. Let life decide.
The Real Purpose of Kundalini
The purpose of Kundalini is not to remain trapped in marriage confusion, twin flame fantasies, neurosis, or freeze mode.
The purpose of Kundalini is to evolve you into a better human being and eventually into an evolutionary being.
Giving birth to children and dragging a marriage for benefits is not the final purpose of human life. If the marriage is not serving your evolution, you must see it clearly.
If your life is getting wasted in stagnation, you need transformation, not more compromise.
Quantum Transformation Requires Eligibility
If you want quantum transformation, you have to become a student. You have to become a learner.
You have to dissolve the ego created by the matrix and raise your eligibility. You must get free from junk, addictions, distractions, and the mental clutter you have collected.
Investment in the self is not easy because you have invested in matter, mind, ego, and personality for years.
But if you want to be free, take the first step. Return to yourself, clear the illusion, and allow Kundalini to take you toward the truth.
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