Die Before You Die

Die Before You Die

The Core Teaching
The death I speak of is the ending of the conditioned personality that keeps living to please and impress others. Surface changes cannot transform a life still organized around the same demand for approval. My instruction is to take responsibility for yourself and learn a different way of living through practical experience. The Phoenix image points to that deeper work: releasing the old programming so your own purpose can become the center of action.

Part of my Kundalini and Enlightenment guide · Teachings by Guru Sanju

The Phoenix and the Old Programming

When I speak about becoming a masculine man, it is a truly transformative process. It is about you becoming a Phoenix—burning your ashes, transforming your complete existence. Whatever you are, whatever you have been, you have to drop the nice guy from your personality. And that is the true work.

Your brain, your nervous system, your entire system has learned the programming of the old nice person—who is in pleasing behavior, in people-pleasing behavior. He’s all the time working to please others, impress others, and in this effort, he loses his masculinity.

If you too are having these symptoms, then you need to work with me—with the Guru. That is why we have created the Phoenix Project, through which you get the opportunity to work with the Guru continuously, like a newborn baby transforming to become a man.

For 18 years—the 18 years of journey—we are doing it in 18 months. And it is a big transformation that no one else in the world can do. Only we are powerful enough to work on you. And this nature, this abundance… See the vastness of this entire Earth. You have to connect to your roots.

Deprogramming and Taking Responsibility

You cannot be on the surface level and expect your life to change. You have to deprogram yourself. You have to learn from a new way how to live the life of a free man.

If you have suffered enough, you have gone through all the suffering that your destiny brings… then this is the time to wake up and become someone who will be an inspiration to others once you’re transformed. You need to know this: you have a purpose for which you are born. You are a man. You could not be born for any small reason.

So stop being in the rat race. Stop following the matrix. Stop following the society—the people who have contributed to your handicapped way of living life. You are a handicap. A man, an independent man who works on himself, is a free man. You can create your life the way you want.

Once you start operating from your masculine energy, you need to retain your semen. And when that semen is retained in you, it gets transformed into a big volcano—that is the cosmic electricity. You need to know that.

You have to take the responsibility of your life that nature, that universe, has given you. You cannot be dependent on the female in your life, or parents, or society, or friends to transform you. Nobody is going to transform you. They have transformed you into a robot, which serves for them. In a way, you have become like an artificial intelligence. Whatever you demand from that person, that man—that person gives. And it is for their benefit.

What is your benefit in all of this?

So, I transform men. I transform boy to man. I transform nice guy to powerful man. If you too want to get transformed, then you have to work with me for yourself.

I take you to the practical experiences of life—and from there, the change happens.

All right, so have a great day.

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