Observe Your Mind and Be a Non-Conformist
Introduction
How can you become a smart and intelligent woman?
To walk this path, you must understand two essential steps.
First, begin observing your mind.
Second, stop doing what others are doing.
Both sound simple, yet they are among the most challenging tasks for women. Why? Because a woman’s mind, as it is shaped by society, upbringing, and collective conditioning, is often filled with impressions and information borrowed from others. This includes the chatter of gossip sessions, the opinions of peers, and the endless conditioning absorbed since childhood.
This discourse is not meant to offend, but to awaken. The truth is that most women carry a mind that is easily influenced, a mind that constantly collects information from outside without verifying its truth.
If someone praises you, you believe it instantly. If someone criticizes you, you also believe it. Rarely do you pause to ask: Is this true? Is this me?
The problem is not that women lack intelligence. The problem is that intelligence is veiled by the mind.
The Veil of the Mind
Intelligence is not absent. It is hidden, like a burning coal covered by ashes. On the surface, the coal looks cold and dead. But when the ashes are blown away, the fire is revealed.
In the same way, when you learn to remove the heavy layers of mind, you gain access to the pure intelligence of consciousness. That intelligence will make you smart, confident, powerful, free, and radiant.
Yet the challenge remains: will your mind allow this to happen?
Whenever you try to do something different, your mind whispers: Do not do it, others are not doing it.
This is how the mind binds you to conformity. You buy dresses, accessories, and even life choices based on what others are doing. You do not have a personal choice rooted in your own consciousness. And when you do exercise choice, it is often driven by the ego’s hunger for attention—doing something weird or flamboyant only to be noticed.
Both extremes are traps of the mind.
The Cheap Entertainment of the Mind
The mind seeks cheap entertainment, and you often surrender control to it. It convinces you to follow the cheapest, easiest ways of living—copying others, imitating trends, and spending your life force unconsciously.
The only way out is to stop listening blindly to your mind and start observing it.
Practice: Observing the Dustbin Called Mind
Here is a practice you can do.
Throughout the day, observe your thoughts. Write them down if you must. You will discover what kind of garbage has been collected in your inner dustbin called the mind.
You will notice that not a single thought is complete. Your mind jumps like a monkey: one moment in the past, the next in the future, then suddenly in the present. This continuous hopping prevents you from being fully present.
And if you are not fully present, you cannot become a smart woman.
Your time, money, and energy are limited. To value them, you need the presence of consciousness—like a guardian who keeps watch over you while you live.
The Influence of Groups
Look at yourself after spending a day with a group of friends. Do you not find yourself wanting to buy what they bought? To mimic their activities? This happens because you are influenced by others instead of consulting your inner GPS.
Your inner GPS is your consciousness. It can guide you to know whether you really need an object, whether you will truly be happy doing a certain activity, or whether it is just imitation.
But because you have never invested your time, money, and energy in awakening intelligence, you miss this inner guidance.
Living in Comfort Zones
Another reason women fail to become smart is that they remain in their comfort zones. You have never risked testing the water of the sea by swimming in it yourself.
You enjoy the familiar, the comfortable. But those who enjoy comfort zones cannot become smart and intelligent.
To bring transformation, you must invest in yourself.
Investing in Solitude
Start by spending time alone in solitude.
When you are alone, you hear the faint voice of your inner GPS. It may guide you to creative actions: perhaps reading meaningful books, perhaps learning a new skill, perhaps practicing an art form.
These activities not only enrich you personally but also reward you professionally. They teach you how to communicate meaningfully with people. They help you gain expertise that you can share with others.
When you live guided by consciousness instead of the mind, your smartness begins to show naturally in daily activities.
The Trap of Discounts and Glamour
Consider a common example.
You see a discount sale sign: Up to 50% off! You rush to buy. Yet you do not realize that the price was first inflated, then “discounted” to deceive you.
The glossy, glamorous display tricks your unconscious mind. You buy not because you need it, but because your friend owns it—or because your ego wants the label.
Later, when your time, money, and energy are wasted, you feel regret and pity for yourself.
This is not intelligence.
A Case Study
Let me share an example.
A woman, after her divorce, spent 8 lakhs on shopping. Why? Because she could not live without her mind’s cravings.
This is an extreme case, but many women commit similar mistakes on smaller scales—addictions, compulsive spending, unhealthy relationships, endless distractions.
Minimalism: The Path of Smart Living
You can act smartly by learning to live minimally.
Minimalism is not deprivation. It is clarity. It is knowing the difference between needs and wants.
Needs are given by existence: food, clothing, shelter, love, and creativity. Wants are created by the restless mind.
Enough is created by existence. More is created by the mind.
And there is no end to more.
Once you recognize what is enough, you live with freedom, intelligence, and beauty.
Intelligence in Relationships
A smart woman’s intelligence is not only for herself. It radiates into her relationships.
When you live with clarity about what is enough, you will attract an intelligent man. Together you can run a family with simplicity, never facing bankruptcy or endless stress.
The intelligence of a woman lies in small things—daily choices, subtle intuitions, the ability to sense what is needed in the moment.
The Gift of the Sixth Sense
The universe has gifted women with a natural sixth sense. Intuition is your birthright. Yet if you never access it, you live as if blind.
When you connect to your sixth sense, you make intelligent decisions that benefit every area of your life.
If you feel unable to tap into this gift, you can seek guidance from a teacher who will show you new dimensions of smart living.
Smartness in Health and Self-Care
Intelligence also expresses in how you care for your body.
When you stop wasting time and energy in meaningless activities, you naturally have more space for healthy eating, exercise, and creative rest.
Your life force begins to thrive again.
The Courage to Accept Foolishness
The final key is humility.
The first step to becoming smart and intelligent is to admit: Right now, I am a fool.
Without this acceptance, there is no growth. When you drop the illusion that you already know, you open yourself to transformation.
Conclusion
To become a smart and intelligent woman, observe your mind and step out of conformity. Do not live as a puppet of gossip, trends, and group influences.
Learn to recognize the garbage in your mind and remove it. Step into solitude, invest in your skills, live minimally, trust your intuition, and admit your limitations.
In this way, you will discover the burning coal of intelligence hidden beneath the ashes of the mind. From there, your true smartness will shine.
And remember—once you become connected to your consciousness, every area of life—health, relationships, family, career, creativity—will reward you.
