Introduction
This session was a deep self-healing practice I conducted with a student who was carrying emotional pain and nervous system contraction in her body. Through intuitive touch and breath guidance, I led her into the release of suppressed emotions held for years. The purpose of this session was to help her understand how her own hands can become instruments of safety, release, and nervous system healing.
Self-Healing Through Touch
Self-healing is important because your brain receives biofeedback directly from your hands. When you touch yourself consciously, the brain feels safe. It knows you will not hurt yourself. That is why the healing process becomes natural and deeply personal.
I told her that the intensity of pressure she applies should depend on her own sense of comfort. Only she knows how much pain she can tolerate. Until that limit, she should continue pressing and releasing — never beyond.
There is no need to shout or cry out loud during this process. When the impulse to cry arises but remains stuck inside, it means something is deeply held within — a sound, an emotion, a story trapped in the tissues.
The Cry of the Nervous System
I looked at her and said softly, “Yes, you are protected here. You can allow it to move.”
Women often cry a lot because their emotional body is open and sensitive. But when grief or pain is suppressed, the body becomes numb. Sometimes I ask — when someone dies, how much should you cry? When your own old self is dying, how deeply should you mourn?
Let that inner cry awaken, but let it flow like a sacred mourning, not as drama or hysteria. It is a release of energy that was frozen in time. A simple trembling, a quiet tear, a sound that escapes the chest — this is the nervous system remembering how to breathe again.
“Tickle tickle tickle,” I said with a gentle laugh, inviting playfulness into the release. Healing does not have to be grim; even pain can open through lightness.
And then I guided her — “Relax now.”
Relaxation and Awareness
Relax completely. Feel the relaxation spreading through your body. Notice how it feels when the contraction begins to melt. This awareness is crucial.
You cannot continue the old drama of holding on. You must know that all this tension, all this tying and retying that you have been doing — it lives in your nervous system. Every knot of control, every suppressed sound, every moment you resisted crying — it became a physical tie inside your nerves.
Now, you must release it. Feel that you are no longer being used by this pain; you are using your awareness to transform it. Feel that you are finally releasing that energy.
And again, I whispered, “Relax.”
Releasing the Block
Now bring your attention to the point where you feel the pain. Feel it with your hand. It is blocked — totally blocked.
I instructed her, “You need to move your hand in a clockwise direction first, and then in an anti-clockwise direction. Apply a little pressure while you do this.”
This circular motion activates pranic flow and reawakens dormant nerve endings. The clockwise motion stimulates, the anti-clockwise releases. The pressure should be gentle yet intentional — enough for the body to respond, never enough to create fear.
Continue until you begin to feel a subtle oxygenation in that area — a tingling or a lightness that spreads from the point of contact. That is the life force moving again. That is the nervous system breathing.
The Science of Pressure and Release
When you press and release with awareness, the body sends signals through the vagus nerve and sensory pathways to the brain, telling it: “I am safe now.” This allows the nervous system to shift from a hyper-sympathetic, defensive state into a parasympathetic, restorative one.
The pressure acts as both inquiry and reassurance. By asking the pain to show itself through touch, and by reassuring it with gentleness, the loop of fear breaks. The body no longer anticipates pain — it trusts your touch.
This is why self-healing through touch becomes so powerful. You are both the healer and the healed. You create a dialogue between your hands and your nerves.
Mourning the Old Self
As the release deepened, I reminded her again, “You have taken a lot.” The years of emotional suppression, of pretending strength, of holding others’ pain — all of it had tied her inner current into knots.
This cry was not about weakness; it was about letting the old identity die. Every woman, at some point, must mourn her own past — not out of sorrow, but out of gratitude and release. When you cry consciously, the tears wash the pathways of the nerves, carrying away the old signals of fear.
The more you resist crying, the more these signals stay locked. But when you allow the tears, the nervous system rewires itself back into harmony.
Returning to Stillness
After the emotional wave passed, I guided her again into stillness. “Relax now. Completely.”
Let the body rest. Let the breath find its natural rhythm. Feel the warmth of your own palms still resting over the area you pressed. Notice the pulse underneath — that is life returning.
When the nervous system feels safety through conscious touch, a deep silence arises inside. It is not an empty silence; it is full, pulsating, alive. That silence is the proof of healing.
The Circle of Healing
Now, once more, move your fingers gently over the same area — clockwise and anti-clockwise. Feel the difference from before. Earlier, it was tight and resistant; now it feels open and alive.
Put a little pressure again until you sense oxygen moving, a slight warmth spreading. That is the body’s way of saying thank you. That warmth is your healing energy in motion.
Breathe slowly as you continue. Each breath is a bridge between touch and awareness, between the seen and unseen. Keep breathing until the movement feels effortless.
And finally, let go.
Completion
This is the essence of self-healing — to bring your awareness, your hands, and your breath into unity. You do not need any external tools. Your own body is intelligent enough to heal when you trust it, when you stop fighting it.
Press and release. Move clockwise and anti-clockwise. Cry if you must. Laugh if it arises. Then rest. The entire process is sacred.
As I watched her body soften and her breathing deepen, I said once more — “So this…” and paused, allowing silence to complete the sentence. The silence itself became the final teaching.
This is how healing happens — when words end and the nervous system remembers the language of peace.
