Breakups During Spiritual Awakening Are Real

Part One: The Nature of Relationships in Awakening

Breakups as a Natural Reality

Breakups during Kundalini awakening are very real. When you are going through this intense transformation, you cannot form or sustain relationships in the ordinary way. Most of the time, whenever you enter a relationship, it ends in breakup. Nobody can truly match your frequency.

Sometimes you blame yourself; at other times you blame the other person. Sometimes you feel you cannot handle the pressure of a relationship, and sometimes you feel the other person cannot handle being with you. Both ways, it becomes too heavy to sustain.

Why does this happen? Why are breakups so natural and inevitable during Kundalini awakening? It is because your frequency, your energy, and your consciousness are shifting. You are left alone, without a companion, without a partner who can understand your condition. And this repeated cycle of breakups leads to other relationship problems—eventually you begin to feel you are not good enough, or that love is not meant for you.

But this is not the truth. You are not “less.” You are evolving. In this discourse, we will explore the problems you face in relationships during Kundalini awakening, why breakups happen, and how you can accept this fact and move forward in your life with wisdom.

Along the way, I will also share techniques so that you can clear blockages from your energy field and energy centers. These will help your brain and nervous system recover from the repeated shock of breakups.

Emotional Draining in Awakening

When Kundalini awakens suddenly, you feel emotionally drained and exhausted. Even if you were a practical person before, less emotional in general, awakening brings an emotional explosion.

Think back to your childhood, teenage years, or early adulthood. There were times when you suddenly felt an intense emotional pull towards someone. It could have been during your school days or your college days. Without any reason, you felt an extraordinary attraction to a person. Suddenly, they occupied all your attention, 100% of your thoughts, all your energy.

You thought about them all the time. Some energy within you was trying to connect to them, to complete the incompleteness you felt—in love, in sexual urges, in bonding, in insecurity, in fear. You wanted that person to make you stronger, to make you whole.

Suddenly, this person became the hero or heroine of your life. If you were male, you felt extraordinary attraction to a female. If you were female, you felt drawn to a man. And in that moment, you felt you were not good enough. This other person seemed more powerful, more capable of balancing your energies. You felt your emotional needs could never be fulfilled by yourself; they could only be fulfilled by this other person.

The Trap of Idealization

This is where the trap begins. In your quest to fulfill emotional needs, you trust the other person more than yourself. You start to see them as a godly figure who has come into your life to rescue you.

In this emotional vulnerability, you share everything—your traumas, your secrets, your entire life story. You open up every hidden wound, hoping they will heal you, hoping they will make you complete in love.

But the truth is, this person is not the savior you imagine. Your emotional need has created this image. You see only their positive side. You never look into their history, their weaknesses, or the ways they might harm you.

Sometimes, the person may even be a narcissist. In the beginning, they wear a mask—showing good behavior, extra love, extra attention, extra care. They camouflage themselves. At first you feel they love you so deeply. But be careful: when someone is going out of their way to help you financially, emotionally, physically, you must pause and give time before moving forward.

Dependency and Domination

What happens next is subtle but powerful. Based on your emotional weakness, the other person fits into your life. They too need something from you. Their love and attention meet your needs at first, but gradually, they become your habit. They sink into your subconscious. They start reshaping your neural pathways.

Before they entered your life, you were independent. You could handle emotions, share with friends or family, or simply let time heal you. You worked on yourself. But now, like a spoiled child whose parents fulfill every demand, you become emotionally weak. Your growth stops.

This is what happens with partners—boyfriends, girlfriends, spouses. You begin to believe they are solving all your problems. But in truth, they are not therapists, not healers. What you are doing is projecting your trauma onto them. They absorb it like a sponge.

At first, it feels good. Someone is there, hugging you, kissing you, telling you not to worry about the past. They say you can focus on the present. They give motivational talks—words of care and love. But this is not real healing. Real love makes you stronger. Real love makes you face the past, not escape it.

And when you show too much affection and dependency, the other person begins to take you for granted. They see your weaknesses. Their egoic need to dominate rises. They control you.

Gradually, you lose yourself. You become emotionally handicapped, believing you cannot live without them. You become the victim, and they become the perpetrator.

The Cycle of Excitement and Collapse

In the beginning, relationships are full of attention and emotional exchange. Both give and both take. But eventually, saturation arrives. All intimacy is exhausted—physical, emotional, mental. There is no excitement left.

This happens in marriages too. After years, partners lose interest because neither is growing individually. Without growth, stagnation comes. And when two people are stuck together without freshness, breakup is inevitable. It may come as divorce in marriage, or as separation in other forms of partnership.

Now, what is the deeper connection with Kundalini awakening?

Kundalini and the Heightening of Sexual Energy

During awakening, lower energies intensify. Sexual energy especially becomes heightened. It demands completion through another person. But because Kundalini is stuck in lower chakras, you feel perpetually incomplete.

And this is not just about this life. You are carrying karmic imprints from past lives. In every birth, you bring blockages. These play out in your present relationships.

So you may keep engaging with multiple partners—three months with one, then with another, and another. Each time, you hope someone will complete you. But none can. Each relationship ends in fights, conflicts, incompleteness. After sexual needs are met, life feels boring again. The heightened lust energy drives you to search for someone new—more powerful, more attractive, more exciting.

This cycle naturally leads to repeated breakups.

Part Two: Why Breakups Intensify in Awakening

The Karmic Root of Repeated Breakups

When you look closely, you will see that these repeated breakups are not just accidents. They are karmic. You are carrying the imprints of many lifetimes. The incomplete relationships of the past—those moments where love, desire, or betrayal remained unresolved—are carried into this birth.

During Kundalini awakening, these karmic patterns surface with full force. The blockages in your lower chakras—root, sacral, solar plexus—carry the weight of past experiences. Every time you meet a partner, those patterns replay. At first, attraction feels magnetic. It feels like destiny. But soon, the same incompleteness arises again.

Some seekers experience this as an endless cycle: three months with one partner, then suddenly drawn to another, then another. Why? Because none of them can make you whole. You are seeking completion outside, but wholeness cannot be borrowed. After the initial excitement fades, fights and incompatibility surface. Neither partner can tolerate the other. The cycle repeats.

The Heightening of Lust Energy

Kundalini herself is sexual energy in her raw form. When she awakens, lust energy intensifies. Libido rises. Sexual urges become stronger. You feel your partner is not enough. The same person who once seemed perfect suddenly feels inadequate.

Sometimes you project this feeling onto them, signaling they are “not good enough.” Other times, you feel you are not good enough for them. Either way, the relationship collapses.

This is why awakening often brings a string of breakups. It is not simply about incompatibility; it is about the awakening of deep-seated energies that demand release, cleansing, and transformation.

Addictions That Deepen the Cycle

Now, let us speak about addictions, because they play a central role.

If your sexual region is blocked, urges will be heightened. You may feel pulled towards pornography, masturbation, or casual encounters. These addictions worsen everything. Pornography, for instance, damages the brain and nervous system. It rules your subconscious mind, wasting your prana—the vital force Kundalini needs to rise. Every time you indulge, your energy drains downward instead of ascending.

If you are male, semen retention is essential. If you are female, the same principle applies—your feminine energy must not be wasted in casual exchanges. Every casual encounter carries energy transfer. When you sleep with partners who themselves carry trauma or who have been with many others, their lower energies enter your system. These block your chakras further, making awakening more painful.

Both men and women must understand: your sexual energy is sacred. Squander it, and breakups will repeat endlessly. Honor it, and you will begin to rise.

The Path of Withdrawal and Self-Focus

What then is the solution? First of all, you must stop the cycle of addiction. Take a conscious break from relationships. Withdraw from the chase.

If you are always on dating apps, always gossiping, always seeking someone to complete you, then you are feeding the energy of incompleteness. You must pause. Have patience. Trust that the universe will bring the right partner in divine timing.

Focus on yourself. Focus on your growth, your life purpose, your inner work. As long as your energy radiates from a lower frequency, you will attract lower-frequency partners—those driven by lust, control, and need. If you elevate your frequency, you will attract a higher-quality partner.

So if you are tired of repeated breakups, stop seeking outward. Turn inward.

The Danger of Dependency

If you do not stop, disaster follows. When you become dependent on another person to complete you, you lose your individuality. You become handicapped emotionally, unable to manage yourself.

This is why so many relationships end in bitterness. At first, there is attraction, intimacy, excitement. But soon, dependency grows. You give your power away. The other person begins to dominate. And when their needs are fulfilled, they lose interest. You are left broken again.

It is not that you are weak; it is that you have misunderstood the source of completion. Completion does not come from another person. It comes from your own rising energy. Until Kundalini clears the lower chakras, incompleteness will remain.

Purification as the Key

So, what can you do right now? Begin purifying your energy. Work on your body, your nervous system, your habits.

1. Stop watching porn. Whether 10 minutes or three hours, it drains your life force.
2. Stop masturbation. Retain your prana.
3. Retain semen (for men). This is your life essence.
4. Honor your feminine energy (for women). Be with one conscious partner or none at all.
5. Break away from casual encounters. Stop allowing trauma-energy transfers from others.

Once you purify, your brain becomes clearer, your nervous system stronger, and your chakras more open. Slowly, Kundalini begins to ascend.

Redirecting Energy Into Creation

Instead of wasting energy in lust, transmute it into creation. Use your urges as fuel for your purpose. Focus on your career, your talents, your business, your art. Every time lust arises, direct it into creativity.

Men especially must use this method. Retain semen for at least a year. This alone can open your solar plexus, reveal your life purpose, and give you confidence as a man. Women too can do the same—withdraw energy from gossip, social media, and the endless chase for validation. Focus on yourself, and your energy will rise.

When you transmute, the same energy that once caused breakups will now make you grow.

Part Three: Techniques for Healing and Conscious Relationships

Releasing Toxic Energy From the Body

Once you stop addictions and redirect energy, the next step is purification techniques. These methods directly release blockages in your lower chakras and help you channel energy upward.

1. Pelvic and Abdominal Flush

• Place your hands on your pelvic region.
• Press gently and sweep downward as though flushing out toxins.
• You will feel pressure releasing from your digestive tract and anus.

Next:

• Move your hands to your abdominal sides.
• Press inward while exhaling strongly, even making a sound like “Haaah.”
• Let the sound vibrate through your belly.

Finally:

• Place your hands on the diaphragm area.
• Press downward while flushing the energy out.
• This clears stagnant energy from the solar plexus region.

These movements help release toxic energy stored in the gut, pelvis, and abdomen. You will feel immediate relief, as though heaviness is leaving your body.

2. Fast Exhalation Practice

• From the diaphragm, exhale sharply in bursts: “Huh, huh, huh…”
• Continue in sets of 10, 20, or more.
• You can do this up to 500–1000 times per day if your body is filled with sexual energy.

This fast exhalation pushes out the toxic blockages from the digestive and reproductive systems. Over 100 days of consistent practice, it will clear layers of past trauma and suppressed emotions.

3. Fast Inhalation Practice

• Sit upright.
• Inhale quickly through the nose in sharp bursts.
• Mix this with fast exhalations—for example: 10 exhalations, 10 inhalations.

This practice oxygenates your cells, refreshes your mind, and clears toxicity. It also strengthens your nervous system and increases energy circulation.

4. Square Pose for Lower Energy Release

• Sit on the floor with your feet flat and knees bent, forming a square-like position with your legs.
• Hold this pose for 2–3 minutes at a time, repeating up to ten times per day.

In this posture, gravity naturally pulls the lower energies downward and out of your system. Gradually, lust energy and obsessive urges dissolve.

Cooling the Sexual Region

Another important method is temperature control. Whenever sexual urges become too strong, use water and cold therapy:

• Take hot and cold showers daily, focusing on the pelvic region.
• Apply ice massage or pour cold water over the genitals and lower abdomen when urges arise.
• This lowers blood circulation in the sexual region and calms unnecessary arousal.

By cooling the pelvic area, you prevent energy from being trapped there. Instead, it is redirected upward toward creation and spiritual growth.

Transmuting Sexual Energy Into Purpose

Now that energy is freed, you must channel it. Energy without direction returns to lust. Energy with direction becomes creation.

Men—use semen retention as the foundation of your masculine strength. Transmute that energy into your career, your leadership, your purpose. Build confidence, power, and clarity. After one year of retention, your solar plexus opens, and your true life path becomes visible.

Women—withdraw from gossip, social media addiction, and endless seeking for external validation. Channel your energy inward. Study, create, build, meditate. Your feminine energy will expand and attract a conscious masculine partner naturally, without effort.

When energy is transmuted, you rise above victimhood. You no longer seek completion outside; you embody completeness within.

The Freedom From Breakups

What happens when you practice these methods with sincerity? Slowly, breakups no longer dominate your life. You stop entering relationships out of lack, fear, or addiction. Instead, you become whole within yourself.

From this wholeness, if a partner enters, it is different. This is not someone to complete you, but someone to grow with you. This is a conscious relationship—where both rise together, rather than drag each other down.

You are no longer desperate for validation. You are no longer enslaved by lust. You are no longer projecting trauma onto another. Instead, you are centered, patient, radiant. And in this state, the right partner, if destined, arrives with ease.

Conscious Love vs. Emotional Dependency

Let us be clear: most of what people call love is dependency. It is the need for someone else to fill your emptiness. True love is different. True love makes you face your past, confront your fears, and grow stronger.

When someone truly loves you, they do not bury your pain; they help you heal it. They do not weaken you with dependency; they empower you with freedom. Such love is rare, but it becomes possible only when you rise above the cycle of addiction and breakups.

Final Guidance

If you are tired of repeated heartbreaks, here is the path forward:

1. Take a break from relationships. Do not keep jumping from one to another.
2. Purify your body and energy. Stop porn, masturbation, and casual sex. Retain semen if male, conserve urges if female.
3. Practice the techniques. Flush energy, fast exhalations, fast inhalations, square pose.
4. Cool the sexual region. Use cold therapy to control urges.
5. Transmute energy. Channel it into your career, purpose, and growth.
6. Be patient. Trust that when you are ready, the right partner will appear.

With these steps, you will not only heal from the pain of breakups but also transform your energy into strength and clarity. One day, you will no longer fear relationships or loneliness. You will know yourself as complete.

And from that completeness, love—true love—becomes possible.

Closing Words

For those who need deeper healing, past life regression, or trauma release, I also use clairvoyant readings and specialized methods. But the essential truth remains: your freedom begins when you stop giving your power away and begin working on your own energy.

Breakups during Kundalini awakening are real, but they are not a curse. They are invitations—reminders that true union comes only when you are whole within.

So go ahead. Begin today. Work on yourself, purify your energy, and step into the freedom of conscious love.