OCD Freedom Formula: Blow Exhalation, Mouth Breathing, and External Kumbhak

Background

This discourse arises from a complete, real-time healing interaction with Monica Roen, who sought help for obsessive–compulsive disorder, low confidence, loss of purpose, relationship confusion, and self-neglect. What follows preserves every original teaching, instruction, and tone while refining grammar and structure for clarity. The session centers on energetic diagnosis (with clear sensations at the heart), releasing childhood freeze responses, and three practical breath-based techniques: blow exhalation, continuous mouth exhalation during movement, and gentle external kumbhak. You will also find guidance on relationship repair, nervous-system restoration, conscious nourishment, and nature-based grounding—culminating in a simple three-day protocol and feedback process.

Opening: Meeting Monica and the Intention of This Work

Hello, Monica. How are you? I will be diagnosing you first. For this, bring your face closer to a mirror or sit comfortably and settle into a still, attentive posture. Keep your attention steady. Now extend your right hand before you and look at it as if I am reading it; then extend your left hand in the same way.

Relax. Close your eyes. We will observe your body region by region to notice any meaningful shifts or strong vibrations. After we scan, you will be able to name what you felt, but for now simply observe.

Bring attention to your face. Then to your third eye region—the space on the forehead between your eyes. Notice the crown at the top of your head, then the back of your head. Slide your awareness down along the spine. Notice the front body around the chest. Then the abdominal region. Then the pelvic region.

Do you feel a very strong, pumping vibration in the middle of the chest—as if something is trying to come out? If yes, allow yourself to sense it fully. The central observation here is the heart. This is the locus of your current process.

Energetic Reading: The Heart as the Present Crossing

You are going through spiritual awakening—also called Kundalini awakening. Your life force is dwelling at the heart because love in your life, especially unconditional love, has not been exchangeable the way it needs to be. This is not a judgment; it is a map. I will answer all your questions, and then I will teach you specific techniques for your major issue—OCD—so you can implement them immediately. If it is practical for you to receive it, I will also give you energy transmission along with teaching the techniques. Based on your response, I will guide you on what to do next to overcome all your issues.

A Brief Life Context for Precision

Are you single or married? You have a boyfriend—fifteen years together. How is your relationship with your partner? If both of your energies do not feel drawn to physical intimacy, that tells me something specific: both sexual energies are dormant rather than alive in the body. In such a state, the brain and nervous system feel disconnected from the energy body. It is as if a layer of covering lies over the nervous system and does not allow the life force to integrate with the physical body. Your feminine energy is dormant, and the nervous system cannot respond. These blockages can be removed, and you can work on yourself. He also needs to work on himself. Then you will feel your true energies—your feminine energy, his masculine energy—and both of you will feel sexual toward each other again. This is a process.

Do you have a connection with your parents? How are your relationships—with friends, parents, others? Where do you live: in a city or more natural surroundings? Countryside and open spaces are helpful because many of the techniques I am going to teach you involve nature.

Your Questions and the Healing Approach

You asked:

1. How can I heal completely from obsessive–compulsive disorder?
2. How can I become a confident, assertive woman who stands in her own power, instead of feeling small, quiet, unworthy, and undeserving?
3. How can I step fully into my purpose and live from my higher self, instead of feeling stuck, tired, and resigned, never inspired to take action?
4. How is the relationship I am currently in affecting my growth and path?
5. How can I start taking care of myself and love myself, instead of sugar, junk food, soda, lack of sleep, and tolerating abusive behavior?

I will answer each and then teach you techniques that address the root of these questions.

The Root of OCD: Meeting the Body’s Frozen Time

Tell me what you mean by OCD and which symptoms you experience. When you feel overwhelmed, what happens exactly? Is the overwhelm linked to a specific event? Is it connected to childhood trauma?

Close your eyes. We will time-travel to your early life—this life. You will feel the previously suppressed energy in your nervous system. When you feel it now, your compulsive behavior will stop being a rescue strategy. Instead, you will change your response to triggers.

I am guiding you to an age around four to six. You are playing—perhaps at school or home. Something happens with elders, friends, or a male figure—an older boy, a teacher, a watchman, a relative, or even your father. Your brain and nervous system go into freeze mode. You cannot respond. You cannot speak. This becomes an imprint.

Try to recall any such event between ages four and ten. If you find even one, bring it here. Feel that moment. If the child in you wants to cry, let her cry. If she wants to shout, let her shout. If she wants to push away a hand, let her push. Do not analyze. Let the body complete the response it could not complete then.

Now, press the diaphragm—the solar plexus region. Begin blow exhalation—a firm, continuous exhale through the mouth. Keep exhaling. Faster if needed. Keep going until you feel the internal charge empty out—until there is no more charge left. This frees the nervous system to move again. This is the antidote to freeze.

Why This Works: Smoke Out, Oxygen In

After a thorough blow exhalation, you will feel increased oxygen in the brain. The sensation of freshness is direct nervous-system feedback: toxicity and blocked energies have been released. In the energy body, apana—toxic, heavy prana, akin to carbon dioxide—collects when combustion is poor. Think of it as smoke. When smoke remains trapped, inflammation rises; oxygenation falls; the brain behaves strangely. Do not get lost in technicalities—just know the principle: exhale the smoke; let oxygen in. Blow exhalation is your exhaust fan.

This is not about triggers alone. Just like gas forms in the gut when digestion is poor, energy “smoke” forms in the subtle body when energetic combustion is poor. Release it daily. When you do this, your response to life changes on its own—obsessive patterns soften because their fuel is gone.

Practical Life Reframes

If you sleep well, eat food, have shelter, have a partner or loving people around you, and do not struggle for money—life is good. The mind tells other stories. It creates comparisons and alternative pictures of how life should be. Come back to feeling, not storytelling. If, after blow exhalation, you feel lighter, life is good in this moment. This interrupts the obsessive loops.

If your partner becomes angry, first do your exhalation and free yourself. Invite him to do the same. The charge in anger will dissipate. It will become meaningless because the stored energy is released.

Remember: when you do not release emotion, carbon dioxide remains trapped in the upper body. Oxygen cannot enter the cells. Brain cells deprived of oxygen behave erratically. The brain needs three ingredients to function well:

1. Nutrition from food—clean, nourishing foods eaten properly.
2. Water—hydrate more; even an extra liter or two can change your state.
3. Breathing—oxygen supply via exhalation-led breathing.

When you inhale more than you exhale, you can slip into hyperventilation and inflammation. To reduce inflammation, exhale more.

Technique One: Blow Exhalation for Energy Build-Up

When to use: Any time you feel overwhelmed, charged, frozen, anxious, ashamed, or compulsive.

How to practice:

1. Sit or stand. Place one hand over the diaphragm (solar plexus).
2. Purse your lips gently and blow the breath out through the mouth—steady, firm, and continuous.
3. Keep the belly moving inward as you exhale.
4. Continue until the felt charge reduces to near-zero.
5. Allow the body to inhale on its own—do not force inhalation.

What to notice: Oxygenation rises in the brain. Thoughts quiet. The urge to perform compulsive rituals fades because the energetic fuel (smoke) has been expelled.

Technique Two: Continuous Mouth Exhalation During Movement

This is “multi-exhalation throughout the day while you are doing any activity.”

When to use: Walking, washing dishes, cooking, cleaning, moving about the home, farm, or workplace.

How to practice:

1. Begin a gentle, continuous exhale through the mouth while you move.
2. Let the body inhale naturally as needed; you do not focus on it.
3. Keep the exhale seamless—no gaps.
4. Let the belly hollow gently on each exhale; keep it soft, not rigid.

Why it works: It shifts you from chronic sympathetic overdrive (fight/flight) into parasympathetic regulation and vagal tone. Anxiety eases. Sleep improves. Hunger and digestion normalize. The mind becomes present and practical.

A simple assignment: Do this continuously for the next 24 hours whenever you are in motion. Then extend it for three days. Note the differences you experience.

Technique Three: External Kumbhak (Breath Hold After Exhalation)

This raises your consciousness and gives you a felt glimpse of enlightened stillness.

How to practice (ten rounds per sitting):

1. First, let the body inhale and exhale naturally for a few breaths.
2. Exhale from the mouth slowly until the lungs and belly feel empty.
3. At the bottom of the exhale, hold your breath (you may gently pinch the nose if helpful).
4. Hold for 3–5 seconds initially; over days, this can grow to 10, 15, even 20–30 seconds based on feel, not force.
5. Release the hold and allow the body to inhale by itself.
6. Rest a breath or two, then repeat. Do ten rounds.

Cadence: Repeat ten rounds every hour if possible, especially when sitting. Move slowly and gently. You may spend 5–10 minutes per session.

What you will feel: A blank, luminous stillness—thoughts recede, and a quiet presence fills the space. This is the state of consciousness. When it abides 24/7, you are free: no thoughts, no mind, no ego, no anxiety, no stress. Today you receive a glimpse. With practice, glimpses become longer dwellings, then a home.

Assessing Breath-Hold Capacity

After a full exhale, hold gently until you feel the first natural urge to breathe. If you are at ~20–30 seconds already, you likely have good stamina and immunity; there are disturbances, not disease. Practice within comfort. Build slowly. This is not a competition; it is a re-education of your respiratory centers and vagus nerve.

Becoming a Confident, Assertive Woman

Feeling small, quiet, unworthy, or undeserving arises from a long period of suppression and under-expression. You will open energy centers systematically, including the throat chakra, to free your voice and expression. This is not merely psychological; it is physiological and energetic—brain and nervous system will relearn safety, expression, and loving detachment.

As your own patient zero, you will become a healer who is detached yet deeply loving. A healer must not be personal in the sense of taking things personally; a healer sees from awareness. This detachment is not coldness—it is clarity, allowing love to do its work without entanglement.

Living from Higher Purpose (Operating from Consciousness, Not the Mind)

Because your Kundalini is dwelling at the heart, your level of consciousness can feel restricted. As you keep working with me and surrender to this process, energy will release upward. Your horizon broadens beyond victimhood, comparison, and self-focus. You will see that your health is better than you imagined, and that you only need to change the way you function.

First patient: yourself.
Second patient: your partner.
Path: heal yourself; then love him in a new way. Not by pressuring physical intimacy first, but by cultivating energetic intimacy—a presence so warm and steady that his heart reopens to you, and yours reopens to him. Physical intimacy will follow naturally.

Your Relationship and Its Impact on Your Path

Your relationship is a major block only because both of you are energetically stuck. Fifteen years is a long time—neither separating fully nor uniting deeply. With the energy changes you will make, commitment grows, understanding deepens, and you find yourselves on the same path again. This is beyond mere psychology; it is energetic. Remove the block, and life purpose calls you forward.

A simple change today: begin calling him partner. After your practice, go and hug, kiss, and love him. Let him be surprised. Cook with love. Serve with love. If he is angry, do your exhalation first. Keep your energy with you. Do not throw it onto him. Let him be himself and watch how the field changes. As a woman, take the initiative to seduce with presence, playfulness, and warmth. The body will follow the energy.

Self-Love in Action: Food, Water, Sleep, Boundaries

• Food: Choose nourishment over numbness. Junk food blocks clarity; clean food fuels the brain.
• Water: Increase hydration by one to two liters daily and notice state shifts.
• Sleep: Prioritize timing and duration; good sleep stabilizes vagal tone, reduces impulsivity, and eases compulsions.
• Boundaries: Stop accepting abusive behavior. Regulation first, boundary next. Blow exhalation before speaking. Then speak calmly and clearly.
• Practice over perfection: You will not “decide yourself into a new life.” You will breathe and feel yourself into a new life.

Nature as Ground: Animals, Farms, and Ancient Oxygen

You already work with animals. This is a living temple of grounding, prana, and innocence. Talk to each cow. Offer loving presence, not just feeding. Hug if you wish. Notice their immediate energetic feedback—regulation by resonance. This is not fantasy; it is the nervous system recognizing safety and coherence. Your farm is a dojo of heart practice.

The Three-Day Protocol (Then Ongoing)

For the next three days:

1. Blow Exhalation whenever energy builds. Empty the charge until the nervous system softens and thoughts reduce.
2. Continuous Mouth Exhalation whenever moving—walking, washing, cooking, cleaning. No gaps. Let the body inhale by itself.
3. External Kumbhak—Ten Rounds Per Hour (when sitting). Exhale fully, hold gently at the bottom for 3–5 seconds (increasing by feel), then release and let the body inhale. Repeat ten times.
4. Partner Practice: Hug, kiss, love. Cook with love. Serve with love. If anger appears, exhale first. Keep your energy with you.
5. Animal Communion: Spend time each day with your six cows. Speak, touch, and listen. This is mutual healing.

After three days, email your feedback and experiences. Based on your report, I will customize the next steps—consultations or projects—so the path matches your lived results.

Experiential Glimpse: The State of Consciousness

Close your eyes. Let the body breathe naturally. Exhale completely. Hold gently for a few seconds. Release. Repeat. After several rounds, notice a clean, quiet presence. Look outward and see how new everything appears, as though waking from a deep sleep. This beautiful silence is consciousness. When it remains, you are free—no mind, no ego, no anxiety, no stress, no frustration. With this one technique, practiced faithfully, you can stabilize this state permanently.

Spread your arms and allow the state to suffuse the body. Repeat ten rounds every hour today. Move slowly, increase breath-hold by feel over weeks. Let the nervous system entrain to stillness.

What to Expect as You Practice

• Immediate: Lightness, warmth in the chest, clearer head, reduced urgency, better focus.
• Short term (3–7 days): Improved sleep, steadier appetite, less sugar craving, more present-moment engagement, decreased compulsion to “fix” via rituals.
• Medium term (2–6 weeks): Increased confidence, spontaneous assertiveness, softened self-critic, warmer connection with partner, cleaner boundaries.
• Long term (3–12 months): Nervous-system resilience, enduring inner quiet, restored intimacy, vocation emerging from consciousness rather than fear.

A Note on OCD, Anxiety, and the Body

Obsessive–compulsive patterns often co-arise with chronic sympathetic arousal and incomplete defensive responses (freeze). The techniques here complete the body’s missing actions (crying, pushing, shouting) and normalize CO₂/O₂ dynamics through exhalation dominance and gentle breath holds. Vagal tone increases; the brain stops searching for control via ritual because safety returns to the body. This is how you heal functionally, not just intellectually.

Remember This Sequence in Any Difficult Moment

1. Feel the body.
2. Exhale through the mouth—steady and continuous.
3. Empty the diaphragm.
4. Hold briefly at the bottom (if sitting).
5. Release and let the body inhale on its own.
6. Act from the quiet that follows—speak, choose, or rest.

Love as Practice

Begin calling him partner. After today’s session, go to him. Hug him. Kiss him. Love him. If he is surprised, allow surprise. As you stabilize your energy, he will entrain. Start with energetic intimacy; physical intimacy will bloom later, naturally. Your purpose is not achieved by withdrawing from life; it is realized by breathing into life with presence.

Closing Blessing and Instruction

Keep your eyes closed for a few minutes after practice. Focus on the head region. Notice the energy that was enclosed in the chest moving upward, bringing hope, gratitude, and love. See the possibility of change. You can do what you have always wanted to do. Life sent you here for a great purpose. No looking back—only forward. Do external kumbhak ten times before sleep and ten times upon waking. During the day, maintain continuous mouth exhalation during movement. Follow the protocol for three days and then send your feedback by email. My team will guide you further.

Remain in stillness for a few minutes now.

Protocol to Follow (for Three Days)

1. Blow exhalation for build-up energy.
2. Mouth exhalation continuously for all movements.
3. External breath-hold (External Kumbhak): 10 rounds × 10 times per day = 100 rounds. Breath hold 3–5–10–15–20 seconds based on feel.
4. Hug, kiss, love your partner.
5. Love your cows; talk to them daily.

After three days, email your feedback and experiences. My team will guide you further. All the best. See you soon. 🙏

Monica’s Closing

“Thank you very much! I am so grateful.”

Appendix: Detailed Practice Walk-Throughs

A. Blow Exhalation (Acute De-Charging)

• Posture: Sit or stand, one hand on solar plexus.
• Breath: Purse lips, exhale steadily through mouth.
• Tempo: Moderate to fast, continuous.
• Duration: Until the charge reduces to near-zero (often 30–180 seconds).
• Completion: Let body inhale on its own; rest in the quiet.
• Use cases: Overwhelm, shame, anger, compulsion, panic, freeze.

B. Continuous Mouth Exhalation (Regulation While Moving)

• Context: Any movement—household tasks, walks, farm chores.
• Instruction: Keep a gentle, unbroken mouth exhale; allow spontaneous inhales.
• Key: No gaps. The exhale is the thread that holds presence.
• Duration: As long as you are moving.
• Effect: In-the-moment parasympathetic activation; anxiety dissolves while life continues.

C. External Kumbhak (State of Consciousness)

• Rounds: Ten per sitting; repeat hourly if possible.
• Method: Exhale fully → hold gently at the bottom → release → natural inhale.
• Hold Time: Start 3–5 seconds; build to 10–20+ seconds by feel.
• Pace: Slow, tender, unforced.
• Marker of success: A clear, quiet, thought-free presence following the round.

D. Relationship Field Practice

• Daily: Loving touch before words.
• During conflict: You exhale first. Then speak calmly.
• Rebuild polarity: Your steady feminine presence invites his grounded masculine.
• First priority: Energetic intimacy; let the body follow.

E. Self-Nourishment

• Food: Whole, alive, and simple meals; reduce sugar and soda naturally by replacing them with nourishing fats, proteins, and minerals.
• Water: Increase intake by 1–2 liters; sip throughout the day.
• Sleep: Consistent timing; breath practice before bed.
• Nature: Daily time with animals and trees; sunlight in the morning when possible.

Your Next Step

Practice exactly as instructed for three days. Keep a simple log of felt changes—sleep, mood, cravings, intimacy, and ease at work or home. Then email your feedback. Based on your lived results, your next steps will be shaped for you.

Life is calling. You are ready.