Background
This discourse by Guru Sanju is a direct teaching on trauma release, nervous system recovery, emotional thawing, and the return of life-force after long inner suppression. At the center of this teaching is a profound yet practical truth: when grief, pain, and emotional pressure remain stored in the system for years, life itself becomes buried underneath them. Crying, trembling, fatigue, numbness, cognitive decline, and disconnection are not random problems here—they are part of a larger rewiring process in which the old burden must leave before aliveness can return. In this discourse, I explain why crying is not weakness but an opening, why laughter and joy are often trapped beneath grief, why the cognitive mind can temporarily collapse during deep healing, and why the body must be retrained through rhythmic, practical techniques. I guide the seeker through tapping, breath balancing, vagus nerve activation, long exhalation, and deep abdominal relaxation, while bringing the entire focus back to what matters most: becoming alive again, one regulated day at a time.
The Crying Is Not the Problem. It Is the Opening.
Whenever crying comes, I want you to understand it correctly. Do not treat it as a failure. Do not treat it as a disturbance. Crying is a form of energy release. If you have not been able to cry fully for years, then all that unexpressed pain remains stored in the system. When healing begins, that storage starts opening.
What is on the surface first is often grief. But beneath grief there is something else—laughter, lightness, smile, playfulness, the lost movement of life. Crying is often only the upper layer. Underneath it, life is waiting.
Look at babies. In the early months of life, they cry and laugh, cry and laugh. That rhythm is natural. Nature does not make that mistake. The newborn is not only adjusting to the new world; the system is also clearing older impressions, older burdens, older residues before life fully begins in the new body. Then, after some time, the baby becomes acquainted with the new life, the new world, the new parents, the new patterns of functioning.
Something similar is happening in you. Your old cognitive way of functioning is collapsing because you are in a rewiring phase. In a deep healing process, the old brain organization weakens before a new inner organization begins forming.
Your Life Must Become the Main Focus Again
When a person is deeply tired, emotionally overloaded, cognitively dull, and disconnected from joy, the problem is no longer only emotional. It becomes existential. Life itself starts disappearing from daily experience. Eating does not feel alive. Sleeping does not feel nourishing. Waking up does not feel meaningful. The person begins to feel like a dead body moving through the day.
This is why I bring the focus back to the most basic truths. Right now, relationships, external drama, and all the unnecessary stories of life are secondary. You are primary. Your aliveness is primary. Your nervous system is primary. Your ability to feel food, rest, breath, and simple existence is primary.
The techniques I teach are not decorative spiritual practices. They are ways of bringing life back into the body little by little, every day.
Healing Will Not Come Through Thinking. It Will Come Through Repetition.
This process must be practiced. Feeling better will not come from understanding alone. The more regularly you practice, the more alive you will begin to feel. You do not need to solve your whole life at once. You need to give importance to yourself every day through repeated regulation.
Morning practice is essential. Night practice is essential. These two are compulsory because they shape the two most important transitions in your day: how you enter waking, and how you enter sleep. During sleep, healing deepens. So the night practice is not optional. It prepares the ground for restoration.
At first, do the practices at least two times daily. Then, if you feel they are truly helping, increase the intensity. Add another round during the day whenever fatigue, dullness, emotional heaviness, or inner collapse rises again.
Tapping Is Not Small. It Is a Way to Wake Up the System.
The first technique is tapping, especially around the head and face. This is not a meaningless movement. It increases circulation, stimulates the tissues, supports vasodilation, and helps oxygen delivery improve in the areas that have been feeling closed, frozen, or dull. When the face, head, jaw, cheeks, eye sockets, and scalp are tapped consciously, the body receives stimulation that says: wake up, open, circulate, receive.
The system that has become numb or collapsed often needs physical signaling before it can begin to feel safe enough to reorganize. Tapping begins that signaling. It activates the body, supports blood flow, opens the breathing slightly, and makes the system more reachable again.
When I bring awareness to the face, the sinus region, the eye sockets, the nose bridge, the jawline, and the scalp, I am not merely giving a physical exercise. I am giving a re-entry point into the body. The body that has stopped feeling fully must be invited back through sensation.
The Brain Cannot Heal Well If the Breath Stays Disturbed
Once the first physical activation begins, the next requirement is balance. This is where breath becomes central. The breath is not only oxygen exchange. It is a direct language through which the nervous system reveals its condition.
When the system remains overloaded, both hemispheres do not cooperate properly. Cognitive function becomes weak. Intuitive function becomes weak. Attention becomes fragmented. The person feels foggy, reactive, and unstable. So I begin with one simple directional breath pattern: inhaling slowly through the left nostril and exhaling slowly through the right.
This is not yet the full alternate nostril system. I keep it simple because healing begins by not overloading the mind with too many steps. First the body must learn one pattern clearly. One side receives. One side releases. One side calms. One side empties. Repetition creates familiarity, and familiarity creates safety.
When practiced properly, even this one-sided balancing method can begin relaxing the system very quickly. Dizziness may come, but in this context it often means the body is starting to let go, soften, and move away from its usual rigid mental grip.
The Exhalation Matters More Than the Inhalation Right Now
For an overloaded system, I often simplify everything down to one principle: let the inhalation happen on its own, and focus more on the exhalation. Why? Because the wounded system is holding too much. It is holding breath, holding pain, holding vigilance, holding trauma, holding unfinished crying, holding identity, holding fear.
Exhalation becomes the door through which the hold begins to weaken.
That is why even after the nostril practice, I bring in another step: inhale, exhale, then briefly hold after exhalation. This creates a reset. It interrupts the usual pattern. It allows the system to experience space after release. That small interval matters.
Then comes long exhalation with sound. When the sound is stretched through the exhale, the body empties more completely. The chest softens. The belly draws inward. The jaw, throat, and diaphragm participate. Sound turns exhalation into a fuller emotional and energetic release.
Your Soul Wants Freedom, But You Keep Standing in Front of the Door
Most people think someone outside is imprisoning them. But in deep healing I tell you something harsher and more liberating: the perpetrator and the victim are often both living inside you. One part is imprisoning, another part is suffering, and both keep the same old cage alive.
You must stop participating in your own imprisonment.
The soul wants freedom. The body wants freedom. But freedom does not come by thought. It comes when the gate opens. It comes when the body is finally allowed to feel, release, breathe, and stop repeating the same internal violence.
If you can free even a frightened animal and feel joy in that act, then understand the teaching: your own inner being is also waiting to be released from the locked condition you have normalized for too long.
Abdominal Breathing Is the Return of Trust
After the body is activated and the breath is balanced, I bring the attention to the belly. The hands rest on the navel region, and the breath is allowed to become abdominal. This is a profound step. Once the belly begins moving naturally, the body starts remembering safety.
In many wounded people, the belly is frozen, the diaphragm is rigid, and the breathing remains upper-chest dominant. That keeps the system alert, shallow, vigilant, and disconnected. But when the belly begins to participate again, the organism starts shifting from defense toward restoration.
The hands on the belly are also important. They act as biofeedback. They tell the system: come here, return here, feel here, live here. The body receives this contact differently from abstract thinking. The body understands contact. The body understands rhythm. The body understands repetition. Through this, the nervous system gradually stops feeling abandoned.
Effort Is Needed at First. Then the Body Takes Over.
In the beginning, you must put in conscious effort. You must tap. You must breathe. You must exhale. You must stay with the technique. But after some time, the body begins doing the next phase on its own. This is when real healing starts becoming visible.
First the person is doing the regulation. Then the regulation starts happening inside the person. What was effort becomes rhythm. What was method becomes state. What was instruction becomes involuntary healing.
This is why I repeatedly say: do not stop too early. Continue for twenty minutes. Stay with the long exhalation. Then release the sound and let natural nasal breathing continue. Let the body do what it now knows how to do. Stop interfering. Stop putting in unnecessary extra effort. Stop controlling the process once the process has become active.
You Do Not Need to Fix Your Whole Life. You Need to Feel Alive Again.
A person in your condition often thinks the solution lies in solving relationships, past stories, future goals, or identity problems. But at the deepest level, the first need is simpler: you must feel alive again. You must feel breath again. You must feel ease again. You must feel one moment of non-suffering in the body again. You must feel one real night of sleep again.
This is the honest foundation. Without this, higher goals are fantasy. With this, life can begin rebuilding.
So I bring the whole teaching back to what is real: cry when crying opens. Let grief move. Let laughter return later. Tap the body awake. Balance the breath. Use the long exhalation to weaken the inner hold. Put the hands on the belly. Lie down. Stop fighting. Let the body remember how to breathe, how to empty, how to rest, and how to feel safe.
This Is How Life Returns
Life does not return through force. It returns through release. It returns through circulation. It returns through breath. It returns through repetition. It returns through the end of inner holding.
If you continue like this, day after day, the deadness will not remain permanent. The numbness will not remain absolute. The crying will not be the final state. Beneath the crying, laughter will come. Beneath the collapse, aliveness will come. Beneath the trauma, life is still waiting.
And that is why I teach this so directly: not to impress you with a method, but to bring you back into your own body, your own breath, your own life.
